Aug 17 '10 Does True Love Really Exist? Few Words

0 COMMENT   

True love? What is it all about? Have you ever wondered where this word came from? Some look at it biblically while others thinks of it emotionally. According to me, i view it both biblically and emotionally. This four letter word has been widely used and mostly abused by many people. I hate the way the word has been misused and carelessly abused to have different meanings. There are different types of love, agape, parental and the love that joins two different people of opposite sex as they start sharing their lives together. There is no discrete definition of the word true love. Definition of the word depends on individual’s point of view. It is subject to debate and i would say it is a strong feeling or illusion that starts in the mind and develop slowly in ones inner being.

The word true love has been misused in many ways. When a man claims to fall in love with a lady at first sight and claims he feels attracted to her, is this love surely? According to me this is lust at first sight. Talk about love in the presence of young people and you will get to realize how widely the word has been misused. True love is no longer there and the urge that drive people towards each other is not love but lust. Men are not attracted to women for love but for sexual satisfaction. Love is in most cases misinterpreted and many wonder if does exist. Many of my friends believe that love between a man and a woman is imaginary, there is nothing like love but only the power of the loin that attracts.

Misuses of the power of love has become more of a tradition and is a reality. It is passed from generation to generation and who are we to break this tradition? I believe in the power of love and not lust but in practice love is not elusive. True love is developed from within and it is molded and nurtured by our feelings. Love is a precious gift from God and it should be watered well and taken care of or else it withers and dies off. You might be wondering who came up with this word love? I wonder too but who knows where it came from? It is our obligation to take care of this aspect of love and to handle it with care.

Love is life, it wins all and makes someone feel special. Have you ever wondered how to succeed in life and how to live a happy and prosperous life? it’s simple, just learn to love and it will multiply joy and add spice to your life. For the married people and for those aspiring to, you should remember that love adds spice to life, it’s thoughtful and gives a reason to live, smile and be ever happy.

Aug 11 '10 There are Twenty Five Words or Less for Connecting With Your Love Ones for Your Personal Making Up Relationship

0 COMMENT   

There are twenty five words or less for connecting with your love ones for your personal making up relationship

 

 

 

 

 

Does this sound familiar? You only intended to get something cold to drink at the local Quick Trip® and on the way back to your car, you stopped by the rusty rack outside and scanned the selection of local magazines chock full of personal ads.

You couldn’t resist picking up the copy with a picture of a good looking couple proclaimed to be their most recent “personal ads” success story. Suddenly, you find yourself scanning the “personals,” strictly for entertainment purposes, of course. You flip over to whatever section you might fit into to see what kind of people might be there. Oh, what fun!

 

 

You notice that there are some words in those ads that always seem to pop up; attractive and fun loving. Pretty redundant, huh? The people all appear to be exercise freaks, love to have fun and love the outdoors; surely they over-exaggerate. Your chances of meeting that special someone from this motley crew are about as slim as winning the lottery.

 

 

What kind of a person would really advertise for a love partner? They would have to be someone who can’t get a date; social outcasts, right? They all have to be fifty pounds overweight, totally desperate for love and look like Elmer Fudd or Roseanne. Your thoughts turn to who would actually be brave enough to call the phone number listed at the end of the ad and just how much cash would someone be willing to part with to place these silly personal ads or make that 900 number call?

 

 

Our passion to find a playmate with which we can share laughs, have fun with or perhaps even spend the rest of our life with is so strong that we often go to almost any lengths to make the connection. Personal ads are big business. You will find them everywhere; magazines, newspapers, television, radio, billboards and the latest high tech ads are now appearing on the internet and the online services.

 

 

Those who are willing to learn the strategies of placing an ad, using the right words for maximum results, how to return calls, introducing you and where to place the ad, may be in for a great surprise. What if they worked? While some might scoff at the very thought of “advertising” for a love partner, the many successful relationships that have occurred as a result of personal ads tells me that it is a viable way to attract a playmate, with a few caveats.

 

 

By applying the appropriate safety precautions, i.e., never give anyone your home or work address and avoid home phone numbers until you know them better, meet in busy public places (preferably in the afternoon), and in the beginning avoid “romantic dinners”. . . meeting people by personal ads has come of age. When you discover someone you want to meet, ask them if they mind if you bring a friend. If this freaks them out, run the other way.

 

 

By the way, the same advice is relevant for people who decide to meet someone in person that they have only met in an online chat room. Remember, it is very easy to hide behind a screen name. Advertising yourself is a fun way to meet people. It’s about meeting people for the purpose of having someone special in your life, to have someone to talk with, to develop a healthy love relationship with, for mutual interests or just for the fun of meeting new friends.

 

 

My work with Dr. John Gray, Ph.D., author of “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus,” as former host of his online chat room and my “Relationship Enrichment Love Shops” presented nationally, have highlighted two of the most common problems that occur in relationships.

 

 

First is undelivered communications.

When meeting singles through the personals, it is wise to play your cards close until you have had several face-to-face meetings and feel comfortable enough to begin fully sharing yourself. This occurs when there is a real connection; a mutual attraction and you both choose to pursue a relationship together.

 

 

Often we withhold what we know really needs to be said and by doing so, we temporarily shut down communications in the relationship. Trust is the foundation of all healthy love relationships. There can be no trust without conversation; no genuine intimacy without trust. One of the secrets to having healthy love relationships is to never be afraid to openly and honestly discuss whatever is relevant to the success of the relationship.

 

 

The second most common problem in relationships is unfulfilled expectations.

When looking for a serious love relationship in the personal ads, it is important to put aside your expectations about how you “think” things will work out and be okay with the way they do. Once you know you are moving in the direction of a relationship, it is wise to let go of all of your expectations. A problem occurs when we expect our partner to love us a certain way and when they don’t, we are disappointed or, we expect them to do something or behave in a certain way, they don’t (they missed our subtle hints), and again we experience disappointment. By the way, subtle hints don’t work. No one can read your mind. Unfulfilled expectations cause relationship problems.

 

 

Instead we must learn to focus on what we “need” from the relationship. Everyone needs love. Discover the freedom that comes from allowing our love partner to love us the way “they” love us not the way we “expect” them to love us! We can best accomplish this by first discovering what we individually need from the relationship, then mutually communicating those needs to our love partner. So, if you decide to try the personal ads, here are my suggestions in 25 words or less:

 

 

Express yourself with honest words. Exercise caution when answering ads. Drop your expectations. Be yourself. Meet in a public place. Focus on having fun.

When you are ready . . . love will find you. Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans.

 

 

With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again. I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.

 

 

 

How to win your ex girlfriend back easily?

 

 

Watch a video that shows you exactly what you must NEVER do, what you should do to get your ex back and why at Win Your Ex girlfriend Back Website.

 

 

You will also learn how to reverse the situation if you have already done those things that should NEVER be done.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jul 24 '10 When to Say I Love You: How to Know if it is Time to Say the Three Big Words

0 COMMENT   

When to say I love you? Falling in love can be likened to a lot of different things, probably because falling for someone is a different experience for every person. Some people compare falling in love to getting hit between the eyeballs by a very large baseball bat. For others, love sneaks up on them like a small, furry pooch with very sharp teeth that slinks up behind them to bite them on the butt. Yet others compare it to various forces of nature that tend to start out slow but build momentum unstoppable until it pretty much crashes down on them like a tsunami. But still the big question is how and when to say I love you.

Regardless of HOW you tend to fall in love, one of the most difficult things about it is undoubtedly trying to figure out WHEN to tell the girl you’ve fallen in love with the three simple words “I Love You”. It’s difficult to decide when to say I love you. This simple and seemingly harmless phrase carries with it a wealth of emotions, ranging from ecstatic hopefulness to abject terror. Here are a few tips to help you determine when you to say I love you to someone and NOT get your emotional tail kicked as a result.

First things first: examine your feelings. Before saying anything, and to know when to say I love you, be sure you’re in love with your prospective partner. Admittedly love can be construed a lot of ways, but generally we ALL want to find someone that we can spend the rest of our lives with. So first things first, are you just after a quick romp in the sack, or are you after something a bit more meaningful? If sex is all you’re after, don’t even bother talking about love. You can say the words, but when you say I love you without sincerity, they won’t be honest and most girls are sharp enough to know bovine manure when they spot it. On the other hand, if you think that you can stand to wake up to your potential partner’s face every morning, can put up with her little foibles and irritating habits without going berserk, and if you think that you’ll wind up having this aching empty spot in your heart if you lose her for good, THEN you can tell her you love her with more sincerity. This is when you say I love you and you know it feels right and you mean it from the bottom of your heart.

Now, aside from YOUR feelings, also examine her feelings. When you say I love you it’s not just your feelings that you have to consider. Granted this is much, much, much more difficult to do than to say. Girls are past masters at masking their emotions behind deadpan expressions and knowing looks. I’m sure you know the “looks” I’m talking about… but thankfully, there are at least a few simple indicators that you can rely on as clues to whether your feelings are one sided or mutual and hints when to say I love you. Laughter and smiles are one of the simplest clues. Make a girl laugh and she MIGHT like you. Another indicator is conversation. IF all your talks are one sided, you can usually forget about it. Big hint here: girls LOVE to talk. If your girl is clamming up, it means something is wrong somewhere. Smiles and conversation aside, a third indicator is time spent together. No girl would spend large amounts of time with you unless she enjoys your company. This MIGHT also mean that she regards you as a friend and not a potential hubby, but let’s face it; the BEST marriages start out as friendships.

Now, the final tip is probably going to be either the easiest thing in the world for you to do, or the toughest, depending on how you think. The question of WHEN to say I love you to her is a mind boggling experience for people who like to plan things out in advance. You see, love isn’t logical, and trying to apply logic to it with things like planning a date with a perfect setting, romantic candles, etc., etc., etc., will often lead to a case of emotional hemorrhoids. Take my advice on this: if you love a girl, don’t bother trying to think of WHEN you should tell her or when to say I love you. Keep it business as usual, go out, keep her company, and have fun. Then, in the middle of all that, you will know when to say I love you, there will come a point, when she will say or do one of those things that endear her to you so much, and you’ll feel all warm and fuzzy but comfortable around her. Then at that point, just TELL her. The sheer spontaneity of it, combined with your heart most likely being in your eyes when you say I love you, will make a bigger impact on her than a planned scenario.

Knowing when to say I love you is one thing but getting the girl of your dreams is another thing. Do you want to maximize your chances to get the girl you want?  Discover the powerful, step-by-step secrets of how to meet, attract, and create a lasting and fulfilling relationship with the kind of person you’ve always wanted. Even if you’re shy or don’t think you are good looking.

If you want to attract the woman of your dreams visit Be Irresistible To Women

To find out more about Love, Dating and Wedding visit All About Relationships.

Jun 27 '10 Some Words About Those Who Got Pain in Love

0 COMMENT   

My heart was cold

My eyes were tired

I could not think but of one thing

I waited and waited to see you passing by

And to bless the day If I could catch your eyes

I saw you passing by

But your eyes I could not catch

And you do not know what this meant to me….

One Gujarati novelist and politician named Kanaiyalal Maneklal Munshi was an incredible lover too.  A fortunate lover. Even after marrying twice in him life he came to contact a married woman Lilavati.  Husband of Lilavati was a alcoholic and her son was a gambler. In this situation Lilavati come to contact with Kanaiyalal and fall in love at first site.

And on those days Lilavati have written above mentioned poem and sent it to Munshi . In that book he describe pain of female love, that could be associate with a male lover too. When you love some one very deeply and that person do not response to your love even a little how your heart pain? It describe in words in this poem.

After read this poem Munshi was crying. Tears are part of love, being in love means being in pain.

A poet Jeam Morish has written

“When your heart is on fire

You must realise

Smoke gets in your eyes”

When love fires your heart and you are enough fortunate it will brings in life many beautiful things, but if you unfortunate it will comes to your eyes as tears. In 1932 some rock bands was popular for this kind of songs in them band, people used to listen and dance,sing and cry on them words, because in this world much more unsuccessful stories about love then stories who successful. Some body asked Socretis “Are you happy?” and he replied, if you be in love, how can be you happy. If somebody say that he is happy, Some where in heart he is hiding him or her pain.

Milton ward a poet had write about love and pain a whole book. And the meaning of that book is a simple one. ‘God has given us pain for make us fruitful our inner world’ But most incredible thing is that when you be in love, one whole industry earn money from it, from your love, from your pain.

Valentine day is a big business now days. They all earn money from your love and pain, books of poetry about love sold number of copies, they make movies about love and those movies run on cinemas hundreds of day and even for years they earn from it. Doctors earn from your love, a tablet called ”Prozec’ is an antidepressant tablet and used by people more who got pain in love. In 2002 the company earned millions of dollars from only sale of that tablet and today them earning is 10 times more.

On 24th December 2001, an entertainer is died, Melvine Backheart who used to demonstrate him pain and entertain people how much he pained him self for entertain people like you its a history. Daily Telgraph news paper wrote about this person’s death in him news paper in a whole page. People used to think that he is pain proof like a watch being waterproof. He was filling air only in him one lung by trick he created. He was taking off the bone of him shoulder by trick he created, if you take off your bone from your shoulder you will scream that can listen 50 miles from pain of it. But this crazy man was used to show that he have not any pain. He used to show a five Inches long nail pushed in by hammer on him head. But after some time people used to see that pain and he have to create a new show for him. Melvine understood if he want earn he must show more pain to the people. He does not know boxing and he hire a boxer for him show, and asked him to beat him nose as much as he can in show. And that boxer have broken him nose in 22 pieces, after it Melvine said that my nail pushing show is yet to be done, and where a little place in him nose which remain unbroken he pushed in a 5 inches nail there and after lost him consciousness. In Hospital doctor made a surgery and made him nose again in order. Before he died somebody asked him “why you make so much pain to your self?” And he replied “after I lost in love and I had pain, that pain is more greater then this pain which caused by my shows. I used to pain from nails and I can not forget pain from love”

Milton ward also wrote a positive thing about love : “ love is a tremendous catalyst-the motor-power for great creativity.” It means love gives power to those who are in love for carry forward them lives. Love do not come alone, it brings with itself jealousy and logical arguments, it brings also passion and madness. Psychiatrists will die from hunger without pain of love. Madness in love create a great economics power.

Psychoanalyst Dr. Adem philips has written a book named “Big sain”. Literally it mean being wise. But in him book all about madness. In this modern time every where we can see madness of those so called wise people. Dr. Adem says madness and wisdom is two part of one coin but people describe and understand that wisdom is natural and moral and good. But when wisdom get broken and love gives pain, we get depression. Human got broken and broken others. But 100% wise people do not get broken because those people can not love. But they easily broken others. In creative world it calls Creative madness.

Once upon a time before 157 years in Japan. Before the year begin of 1853 an American naval ship came to Japan soil with full of solders. In that ship was an American diplomat also Townsend Herris. Today you can see him pictures at Shimoda city’s Folk History Museum. And near him picture there is a picture of a girl who is famous as Japanese Monalisa , a very attractive and beautiful girl. Her name is Okichi. King of Japan on that time sent Okichi to welcome that American ship. And when Herris have seen her, he fall in love with her. At the age of 16 years Okichi got a sea of love from Herris. But an arthodox part of mind of Japanese Okichi could not accept him love certainly. But King of Japan asked Okichi to love him with all her heart for the shake of Japan. After it Okichi begin to love Herris, she has taken care of all about Herris and loved him with all her heart and soul. But time to stay in Japan for that diplomate Herris was came to an end and he must leave Okichi and Japan. In Newyork Herris died. And here Okichi could not marry and love other man. She even said No to many millionaire on that time. And to feed her self she opened a brothel. There was a terms before any one who want to enter that brothel, they must say about pain of them heart and get enter in to the brothel. She did not asked never money to man who come to her in brothel for forget him pain, but she asked to open him wounds and get in to the brothel. Girls in brothel try to give love and calm to those man. Herris after came to Newyork never married or love again to other girl. As a rule of diplomasy he could not marry to Okichi but he remembered her all him life. One pain felt other pain far from thousands of miles.