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Thursday, July 29th, 2010

Love and Relationships – 5 Helpful Tips

If you think most relationships run along without any problems, think again. Relationships never run smooth, regardless of what your impression is of ‘other relationships’. Everyone in their relationship experiences challenges at some point, nd puts the love for each other under pressure. It is then people need to be aware that problems are setting in and get advice and help in their relationships to re-discover new ways to keep their relationship alive. Even if it’s simply to recreate the spark that was present in the early days, and get back that once loving relationship.

Don’t worry; there is plenty of relationship advice available and there are many different approaches one can take to improving his or her relationship. Yet sometimes it’s really a problem to spot what’s required to be fixed on your own. That said, don’t think all advice is ‘good advice’ – advice is very personal and subjective; what works for some folks does not necessarily work for others. A key factor to consider when seeking advice is be guided by what others’ opinion is of the person giving the advice. Always try to ‘take advice’ from someone who has been recommended by someone you trust and respect – even better if it’s from someone who too has had to seek help in solving their relationship problems.

Here are some quick ideas from us about what we’ve learned about relationships:

Idea #1: Should an argument happen, avoid negative statements such as, “You never..” or “You always…”. These type of statements are unfair and will get you nowhere with your partner. You should think of positive ways to voice your concerns, and use “I” statements.

Idea #2: Never forget a successful relationship takes the effort of both partners. Relationships are always a work in progress.

Idea #3: One really satisfying trick is to write down all the wonderful things that you love about your partner. Then, pull it out and read it when you are having a difficult time. Reading about the positives will help motivate you to put more effort into your working positively on the relationship.

Idea #4: Whether you use text messaging or email, learn! Taking a little time to send a text message or an email to your partner that simply says, “I love you” can be highly impacting in a good way – it’s the smallest gesture that can often mean the most.

Idea #5: Pick your moment wisely to talk through serious issues with your partner. Things will go much more smoothly if your partner is not irritated, tired or generally low.

Also, look around your family and friends and see if there’s any couples you know in a successful relationship or marriage, who may be able to offer you advice on relationships. Yes, you might hear similar advice as we’re offering here but that will just reaffirm the importance of these little ideas. Obviously you will need to decide which pieces of advice you think will work for you and your partner, and then apply them.

And remember that if your partner respects and loves you, and seriously is committed to overcoming any and all hurdles in your relationship, he or she will likely follow your lead and begin to be more positive, loving and communicative. It’s then it becomes a win-win situation for both parties.

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Saturday, July 17th, 2010

Mending a Relationship Back to Healthy – 7 Tips to Success

It is very common for a couple to go through ups and downs in their relationship. The most common reason for break downs is raising kids. After that it is usually a demanding career or simply one person in the relationship is going through changes. Mending a relationship back from the “downs” requires effort from both parties and this can only come of both parties want the relationship back in strong working order.

The connection in a relationship often falls by the way side and it simply needs a little help to be seen and felt again. Mending a relationship back from the trenches is a common road traveled. Start the journey today using these seven effective success tips.

1. Both parties must be dedicated to fixing the relationship and finding the connection again. Staying for the kids or out of convenience is not enough. You must be committed to making changes.

2. Find the core the problems, not just the problems themselves. Each of you needs to have a clear perspective on the problems in the relationship. There are reasons the symptoms of a troubled couple are there. Use the symptoms to diagnose the real problem. This is valuable in a relationship whether it is in trouble or not. Example: An affair is not the REAL problem. There is a reason the person had the affair. It is this reason that is the core of the problem. Mending a relationship requires you both deal with the core issues at hand.

3. Communicate your feeling, needs, and disappointments. Both of you must voice your feelings and both of you must listen to the other. Hold hands, look into each other’s eyes and be honest, and understanding. If your partner says something that hurts you remember that this is the only way to sort out the issues in the relationship.

4. Put a plan of action into place. Together come up with an action plan that will dissolve the issues and you can both start mending the relationship back to when it glowed and you were happy.

5. Make solid footprints in the plan. Take action right away in the areas that you need to improve in. Help each other out along the way. Help remind each other and support each other in the areas that might be more difficult.

6. Don’t expect perfection too soon. Give things time and give your partner time to adjust to things they may find difficult or have issues with. Be patient, understanding and supportive. Have a little laugh about the things you also find difficult so your partner doesn’t feel alone in the process.

7. Spend time together. Life is busy there is no doubt. Don’t take each other or the relationship for granted. Instead, make an effort to find time together and use it wisely. This area should be on your action plan. You can plan a weekly outing. Meet up for lunch during the week. If you have kids you can do chores together in the evening when the kids are in bed and chat while getting them done. You will finish faster allowing each of you more free time, either together or independently.

In order for a couple to get a relationship back on track they have to work together, communicate and put into gear an action plan. It is Vital for you both to be understanding, supportive, fair, and above all else committed to the process of mending the relationship.

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Tuesday, July 13th, 2010

Relationship Tips

Relationships can be so exciting at the start. It’s a time when you just can’t wait to see each other, spend every spare minute dreaming about each other and just can’t keep off the phone. Unfortunately as the relationship develops into a comfortable routine, the excitement generally recedes, the need to touch base becomes more infrequent and a period of normality sets in. For many, the excitement is in the chase and for others the feeling of commitment can become a strain, the recognition that the love of your life is only human and has their faults makes you question your judgment, and the disappearance of those little surprises can out a dampener on the whole thing. The need to make that extra special effort goes to the back of peoples minds flirtation tends to become a thing of the past and the ‘extra special’ element that generated the attraction in the first place starts to dissipate. At this point in the relationship a few tips can be just what you need to set you back on the right track.

There are numerous relationship tips that will help you on your way, not every tip will be right for you and there are far too many relationship tips to be listed in one article. However there are quite a few tips that are the backbone to a healthy long-term relationship.

• Never assume that because you have been together for a long time that you no longer need to make an effort where your relationship is concerned. If anyone told you that once you have your partner life would be easy they were lying, like most things in life if you want your relationship to last you need to put the effort in.

• My second relationship tip is focus on your partner’s good points and not their bad ones. None of us are perfect, we all have our faults and we are unlikely to every change. What is wrong about us is usually there at the start of any relationship so don’t refocus your attention on the bad points just because you’ve caught your fish!

• One relationship tip that is near the top of the list is never let go of that quality time no matter how busy your life can be. Even if you can survive quite happily on the odd snatched moment give consideration to your partners needs.

• Keep some fun in your life, don’t grow old before your time, enjoy yourselves don’t make life too serious.

• Relax, ease the tension and reduce the stress, tension is a real relationship killer.

• Learn to communicate. This is one relationship tip that you must never forget. How to communicate is covered on many articles on the net (including my own). This is one area that you need to master so take a little time to understand the meaning of communication and how to communicate.

• Keep intimate. If you loose the intimacy in your life you loose the very backbone of your relationship. The odd caress, the fleeting glance and the kiss goodbye all help to keep the excitement alive.

• Don’t just give up on those little surprises and gifts, long-term relationships do not mean that you shouldn’t still show that you still care for each other.

• It is so easy to become too complacent in a relationship, heed this little tip, don’t do it, never take anything or anyone for granted, you can never assume that things will just stay the same for ever without any effort from either side. Love each other, be kind to each other, respect each other and work together to fulfill both your dreams.

• Don’t just say it, show it and mean it. It is so easy to say you love someone, it’s a very small word, but saying it isn’t enough, you have to show it and you have to mean it!!

• It is easy to grow apart when all’s you do is share the same bed. Relationships are all about sharing and caring. Take note of this relationship tip and look for than common interest, make sure you do something together that you both enjoy and don’t just base your relationship on the bedroom!!

• In any relationship there is always a point when things don’t go quite so smooth. One of the best relationship tips I can give you is don’t ignore the signs. If things aren’t going quite right and your partner is hinting that they aren’t happy, don’t just bury your head in the sand. Listen, understand and do something about it.

• Work as a team and don’t shirk your responsibilities. No one likes chores but they have to be done, split the tasks, tackle them together and make sure you both enjoy the same amount of quality time.

• Support each other and make sure you both are given the freedom to achieve your life’s goals. Remember that in relationships there is no room for selfishness, you can’t just say I’m all right and what my partner needs doesn’t count. You need to plan your life together, make sure that you can both achieve what you want to achieve and where there is conflict, compromise.

Relationships are all about give and take, understanding your partner, enjoying the experience and always looking for that little thing that keeps your relationship alive. Understand and respect each other for who you are, don’t expect perfection because if you do you will always be disappointed. Learn to change with the times, embrace change and look forward to the excitement it brings. Above all never assume that the grass is any greener on the other side!

For more relationship advice visit my website: 1st-4-Relationships