We, as God’s daughters need to know that Heavenly Father loves us. We need to know that He sees the good in us. Feeling His love encourages us to press forward, reassures us that we are His, and confirms to us that He cherishes us even when we stumble and experience temporary setbacks.[Bonnie D. Parkin, September 23 2006- General Relief Society Meeting]
Bonnie D. Parkin testifies: “I know that He loves us, sisters, as does His Son, Jesus Christ. That love will never change – it is constant. You can rely on it. We can trust it. We must believe that the love of Christ will never fail us. All that we do…should reflect the love of our Saviour and the love of our Heavenly Father. This great love should be the source of our motivation to serve others. It must be both our point of origin and our destination!”
Do we frequently reject the Lord’s love that He pours out upon us in much more abundance than we are willing to receive? Do we think that we need to be perfect in order to deserve His love? When we allow ourselves to feel “encircled about eternally in the arms of His love”, we feel safe, and we realize that we don’t need to be immediately perfect. We must acknowledge that perfection is a process..[Bonnie D. Parkin, September 23 2006- General Relief Society Meeting]
I know there may be some who have a difficult time imagining what His love feels like. Think of a mother with her newborn baby. The warmth, safety, cherishing, and peace of a mother’s embrace can help us understand what it feels like to be encircled in the arms of His love.[Bonnie D. Parkin, September 23 2006- General Relief Society Meeting]
A young adult Relief Society sister wrote, ” Only in the love of my mother do I come close to understanding the magnitude and power of the love of the Savior.”
Mothers, can you see how essential you are in teaching this truth to your children? As you encircle your children with your love, they will catch glimpses of His love. [Bonnie D. Parkin, September 23 2006- General Relief Society Meeting]
President Gorden B. Hinckley urges us to “love the Lord [our] God, and love His Son, and be ever grateful for Their love for us. Whenever other love fades, there will be that shining, transcendent, everlasting love of God for each of us and the love of His Son, who gave His life for us.
A mother who knows her relationship with God helps her children to know Him and to be encircled by His love. I was touched by the comments a daughter shared at the funeral of her 100-year-old mother: “When I was a teenager trying to plan my class schedule, I would come into the kitchen where Mother was ironing. I would present possible options for my studies…She would listen to all of them. We would discuss the possibilities…and then she would say, ‘OK, Cathy, have you prayed about it?’ That was kind of embarrassing to me, and i would hesitate and then add, ‘Do you have to pray about everything?’ She answered simply, ‘I do’. [Bonnie D. Parkin, September 23 2006- General Relief Society Meeting]
This mother listened. She shared her faith in the Lord; she set an example; she shared her expectations for her daughter to return continually to the Lord. As we approach the Lord, we feel His love draw us closer. Mothers, teach your children to always include the Lord in their lives, and help them to recognize His loving influence..[Bonnie D. Parkin, September 23 2006- General Relief Society Meeting]
The greatest evidence of our Savior’s love for us is His Atonement. His love overflows with grace, patience, long-suffering, mercy, and forgiveness. [Bonnie D. Parkin, September 23 2006- General Relief Society Meeting]
We must not allow pride or vanity, selfishness or personal agendas to displace our reaching out to others in love. Quite simply and profoundly, we must first allow ourselves to be encircled by God’s love. We do this best by embracing the Savior’s eternal Atonement. Then we can expand that circle to include our family and all others. Such a circle is indeed heaven. [Bonnie D. Parkin, September 23 2006- General Relief Society Meeting]
Naomi Botha is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and writes in accordance with the teachings of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Naomi also shares her experiences as a woman, wife and mother.
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Love is a strong feeling which cannot be explained. If you ask every one about its definition, you will realize that every definition or description is unique. Love and relationship therapists have tried their best but all the theories end up being completely different. There has been a lot of confusion on what love really is since the age of love. Many single dating people pour out enough love lyrics to confess their love for each other but sometimes it comes out as mere flattery. How should you show love? Is there a formula to communicate the feelings? The words “i love you” do not seem enough since the phrase is being misused a lot even in the art of flirting. Many nice guys are having problems with dating since they express in a more subtle way.
Since the age of love, single dating relationships have been faced with a lot of challenges. Nobody knows exactly how to react to which reaction. Some declarations such as “i would rather die than live without you, i do not breathe when you are away” are some of the love lyrics which most people love to hear. This is sheer flattery and yet it does miracles in relationships. If you do not send such a message to a girl, she will soon or later turn her back on you. Is this what we call love? I have never heard of a person who person who died because of being away from her lover and neither have witnessed any one stopping to breathe. This is the art of flirting at play and it is ironic that every body knows it is a lie and yet they believe in it.
The world since the age of love is full of wonders. May be that is why they say love is blind because single dating people seem to think with their hearts but not their minds. The art of flirting is employed in every step of dating to convey love. The love lyrics do not have to be necessarily meaningful or relevant. If you critically analyze the sense in them, you will be surprised to learn that only a few make sense. I have watched people walking hand in hand along the streets. One thing i noted is, not all hand holding singles are in love. The ones who are not passionate about each other exhibit plain and dry atmosphere but two people who are head over heels in love with each other will always put forth an unseen but almost tangible wave of heartfelt emotions.
Many are the times we feel love and see love in other people but we find it hard to define it. Since the age of love it has made many things fall apart and it has as well built some. Single dating lovers find themselves in hot soup when they try to date to impress. It is sad that the bible definition of love is not existent in the seemingly perfect dating relationships. The world has conformed to the stubborn kind of love. Words used as love lyrics in the art of flirting has occupied a bigger space is peoples’ hearts compared to actions.
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Computers are man-made machines. Because man is prone to error, it naturally follows that the things he makes also have the tendency to encounter faults in the system. While computers these days are more technologically advanced, they are still not perfect and thus still not free from flaws, including slow computer XP problems. In fact, it is because of the fact that computers are now more complex than ever that they are more likely to experience system errors.
There are many possible reasons why slow computer problems may occur. In general, these problems are attributed to the natural process of aging that even computers, which are non-living things, go through. Thus, with time, wear and tear can cause the gradual deterioration of any computer and the programs that run it, including the globally popular Windows XP. Specifically speaking, however, there are a number of factors that contribute to the wearing and tearing of a Windows XP computer. A slow running computer can be annoying and frustrating, which is why it is of utmost importance that the causes of the slowdown be fixed right away. The good news is, you don’t have to spend anything for computer repairs – you can do them all on your own.
If you have a computer and are experiencing slow computer XP problems, one of the most basic things you should do to is to take a look at your folder for currently existing temporary files. This is the folder that contains your Internet browser’s history and cache, that part of a computer where websites or web pages are each stored as individual files. When your temporary files folder gets full, your computer encounters difficulty in organizing the files it holds. It is vital to the recovery of your computer that said folder be emptied as soon as possible, and this should be observed on a regular basis – just as you should do with your recycling bin. Remember, just because you delete a file – a program or an application – doesn’t mean it’s no longer in your computer system; it is only actually transferred into the recycling bin. To permanently get rid of unwanted and unnecessary files that can cause slow computer XP problems, empty your recycling bin regularly.
Another area of your computer that you should check to solve your slow computer XP problems is your start-up menu. There are programs that, when installed into a computer system, have the ability to be run directly upon start-up. This option is in fact present in most programs that are being used and developed these days. To help your computer regain its original speed, delete said option of programs so that they won’t have to be run right after you turn on your computer – because this wreaks confusion in your computer system. In line with this, avoid clicking on programs when your computer has just powered up. Wait for your computer to complete its start-up process before opening any programs or typing in further instructions.
These simple tips are enough to remedy your slow computer XP problems with no charge at all. For best results, experts recommend getting software that cleans up the registry in order to keep slowdown troubles at bay for a long, long time.
It is important to try and solve cat behavioral problems as quickly as possible. This is because the more a certain behavior is repeated, the harder it is to try and break the cycle of bad behavior.
Solving cat behavioral problems is one of the most frustrating and stressful situations you can be in. While at times it seems that you are alone, realize that there is a lot of help available to you from lots of different sources like website, books, and articles.
Most people make the mistake of just wanting the solution and not seeking out the original cause of the behavior problem. This results in people trying a wide range of things that do not work because they are not correctly identifying the issue or they are listening to people who are not cat behavioral experts.
For example, a cat may stop using the litter box for a number of different reasons. Maybe the litter box has been recently moved, the box is not clean enough, or maybe there is a change in the household routine. This and a lot more reasons exist for a cat to stop using the litter box, and they each require a specific and different solution.
This is just one example of how important it is to identify the cause of the problem. Take some time right now to think about any recent changes in the house that might be affecting your cat. Many times the solution is much easier than you think.
To start your analysis of the problem you can break down cat problems into two general categories, litter box issues, and feline aggression issues. These are two broad categories, but almost all problems should fit into these two categories.
For there you can break down the problem even further in the categories, until you think you have arrived at the cause of the problem.
Also, it is important to take your cat for regular vet checkups. If you do have a behavior problem with your cat it is always important to rule out a possible medical cause.
Hyperthyroidism and kidney problems are just two examples of how a medical problem can cause a change in the behavior of a cat. This is why it is important to have a physical exam done on your cat and possibly some blood work.
Another medical cause of behavior problems is urinary tract infections. Cats who have these infections may stop using the litter box all together and may start to urinate on beds and carpets.
Remember, you are not alone in dealing with this stressful situation. There are lots of websites, books, and articles out there that can provide you with the information that you need.
Take the time to try and understand what exactly caused this cat behavioral problem and then only use time tested and proven solutions from cat experts who know what they are talking about. Only by truly taking this time can you then solve the problem more quickly and easily.
You know, a relationship crisis is an incredibly painful and emotional experience, and it is no surprise that most women who are caught in this emotional upheaval do more to harm their relationship than help it! When a person is faced with this unfortuitous turn of events, heartbreak, frustration, and fear drive their actions, and they inadvertently destroy their relationship. The best thing you can do in a situation like this is take a step back, take a deep breath, and clear your mind! This will prevent you from harming the chance of saving your relationship!
Let’ examine the four things you shouldn’t do, then I’ll tell exactly what you should do!
1. Telling him that you’ll change to save your relationship
Reassuring him that you won’t; complain anymore, be controlling, won’t lie, be jealous, or have another affair never works. You see, all of the talking is over at this point in the crisis, and actions will have to speak louder than words. What you’re really saying when you tell him you’ve changed is; give me my way because I don’t really care what you want. This will only cause him to pull away from you and will hurt your chances of saving the relationship. You see when it comes to saving a relationship actions really do speak louder than words! If your relationship has reached a point of crisis, there isn’t anything that you can say that will turn it around. So, you may as well save your breath!
You see, your partner has been asking you for a change and you haven’t given him one! The only way to turn your relationship around is by proving that you changed, and not by saying you have. Forget about who’s right or wrong. I’m sure your partner did several things to harm the relationship, but if you want to focus on blaming him, you will destroy your relationship. There’s an old saying; “Being happy doesn’t always go along with being right!” So, do you want to be happy, or do you want to be right? If you want to be happy focus on proving that you have changed and watch your partner change him self!
2. Saying that you love him to save your relationship
Telling your partner over and over again that you love him is like saying that you want something different than what he wants. He wants to pull away and you want him to come closer. There’s a reason that he is pulling away, and what you’re doing in essence is ignoring his needs. Saving a relationship is not about forcing the issue, it’s about attraction! Love is really a matter of attraction since you can’t force someone to love you, can you! You partner pulled away from you because you haven’t been fulfilling his emotional needs, and your fears and insecurities have been causing you to damage the relationship. So, telling him that you love him will only push him further away. If you want to save your relationship refrain from saying I love you at this point. Instead tell him that you agree and understand why the relationship isn’t working! That’s right, agree! I’ll show you exactly how to do this towards the bottom of this article!
3. Trying to change him to save a relationship
Plodding, pleading, and arguing with him in an attempt to get him to change never works. In fact, it is actually counterproductive to saving a relationship and is the quickest way to destroy it. Let’s get one thing perfectly straight; YOU CAN”T CHANGE HIM!! No matter how hard you try, you can’t change him, and attempting to do so will destroy your relationship. Only he can change himself! Now that you realize this critical case in point, your chances of saving your relationship just went from slim to probable!
4. Acting out of desperation to save a relationship
Desperation is not attractive to anyone, and when you say I love you please don’t leave me, what your really saying is that I have very little self-confidence. Your sending a message that you know the world is full of good looking men, but you can’t see that and you have very low self-esteem. Saving a relationship is all about showing your partner the confident woman he’s always wanted. Your partner wants a woman that makes him feel like a man. He wants a woman that displays confidence or feminine grace. When faced with infidelity in a relationship most women think their man just gave in to a moment of sexual desire, or that it’s just the way some men are. However that’s not it at all! Other than sexual addiction being involved, 99% of the time it is because his emotional needs have gone unmet. Is committing infidelity wrong? Of course it is, but if you want to save your relationship being desperate or unconfident will not help. As a matter of fact, it will destroy it.
Ok, that’s what you shouldn’t do, and now here’s what you should do!
Step back, take a deep breath and clear your mind!
Draft a statement of agreement and present it to your partner! (see example below)
Focus on renewing yourself and proving that you have changed!
The following statement of agreement is based on a relationship where the partner blames and resents his wife for being verbally abusive and controlling, which has caused the crisis to escalate to the point of separation.
Her Statement of Agreement
I have been thinking about some things and I want you to know that I agree with you and I understand. I know that there have been times when I have been verbally abusive and have said things to you that I shouldn’t have. I also know that because of my own fears I have been very controlling in our relationship. Never wanting you to have any friends, and always being suspicious of where you are and what you’re doing, even though you’ve never given me a reason to feel that way. I know that you have asked me for a change and I haven’t given you one, so I honestly don’t blame you for feeling the way that you do. And, I don’t blame you for wanting the separation! I just wanted to tell you that I understand.
Give these techniques a try; you may be shocked at your partner’s reaction!
Best wishes,
David Roppo
The Relationship Rehab Coach
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