St. Valentines Day – a day of celebrating that wonderful warm fuzzy feeling, called love. On this day, you’re supposed to buy your special someone flowers; you’re supposed to write cheesy messages into corny greeting cards and send them by couriers dressed up as guerrillas. (I wouldn’t recommend using a real guerrilla – they tend to be too passionate and when I did that, trying to save a couple of bucks my ex left me for the guerrilla, anyways… ) What else are you supposed to do on this day, let’s see – you’re supposed to ‘spice up’ your bedroom escapades with heart-shaped knick-knacks of sorts (where do they come up with some of those, really). You’re supposed to… love!
I have always been “anti” V-day person. I grew up during communism. My family moved to the US from Bulgaria when I was 14. Communism does not condone religious celebrations of any sort, and that includes “the day of love”. So, you guessed it – when I came to the US, suddenly every year about this time I had all sorts of voices, some explicitly and some not so much, reminding me what chocolates to buy my sweetie to show her my love and appreciation, what songs I should play during the monkey-times in the bedroom (darn guerrilla, can’t get him out of my head), etc. etc. I have always been James Dean-like in my attitude towards people telling me what I’m supposed to and not supposed to do, but about love – now that’s overdoing it. And this is why I’ve always been “anti” valentine’s day. I’ve often been appalled by the mass frenzy to act as loving as possible on this day and then go back to being reserved and discrete and “politically correct”.
The purest of human emotions does not have a switch to it. You can’t just put it in “turbo” one day out of the year and dress it in socially acceptable clothes for the rest! And most of all you can’t keep on telling me what sort of chocolates my sweetie likes because may be she’s allergic to chocolates and that would give her hives you rat b_____d, and you certainly can’t tell me what song to play while we’re making passionate love because I want to hear every single gasp and moan of hers knowing that they were of pleasure, caused by me, and not some stupid song. And most of all you can’t tell me to love her super-duper more on this very day, implying that I love her less during all the rest. I certainly hope you’re not even thinking about telling me any of those things, because by golly – I’ll rat you out on her and then she’ll have a jolly ol’ time with her revenge on you, beliiiieve me.
And here’s what I know about love, that took me a while to learn – it doesn’t matter how you’ve decided to express your love to your loved one. What actually matters is whether the way in which you express your love is congruent with what the person you love expect to receive, as ‘a true love expression’. For instance – a great example for this is… my very first “date” in the US. I was either 14 or 15, can’t remember. And of course – we went to the movies. At the register I stepped up, doing what I’d been taught was the cavalier thing to do, be the young little gentleman and all – pay for the lady. No, sir! She wouldn’t have it. Pushed me aside, handed her money to the ticket lady and said “One, please”. Then she looked right at me, and granted me one of those dimpled smiles that had won me over, back then. She was forgiven right away, but my confusion had simply went from “utterly stupefied” to “I should ponder this later”. Ponder it I did and I’m telling you now – what you or I or the seductive chocolate woman on tv tell you about love doesn’t matter.
The single most crucial question you must ask yourself to always lead you to a blissfull relationship is “What does my baby expect to receive, whenever expressions of true love are concerned?” And of course that means that all women are not with the same desires and passions just as all men are not (even though some cheesy cliché phrases some times are right on point). Every individual loves differently and expects different types of love gestures from their sweetheart. Listen to the one you love about love. Do love the one you love the way the one you love expects to be loved. Ooo, love, love, love, love luv — Happy Valentine’s Day.
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The Internet has created a tremendous problem for anyone with a potential gambling problem. There are seemingly endless easily accessible online gambling sites and activities. Easy access to gambling is a potential disaster for a person with a compulsive gambling disorder or an inclination to having a problem with gambling. With an abundance of online casinos and betting sites, anyone with a gambling problem and an Internet connection is faced with temptation twenty-four hours a day.
Why is gambling a problem – why can’t they just stop?
A compulsive gambler often wants to stop. After all, he is losing his money, his friends, ruining his family . . . But he can not stop. According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) – the American handbook for mental health professionals – Compulsive Gambling is a mental disorder that requires treatment.
How do you know if someone has a gambling problem?
Problem gambling is characterized by a difficulty to limit money and/or time spent on gambling activity which leads to harmful effects on the gambler himself as well as to others. Compulsive gambling is now defined as persistent and recurrent maladaptive gambling behavior meeting at least five of the following criteria:
1. Preoccupation. He/She has frequent thoughts about gambling experiences, whether past, future, or fantasy.
2. Tolerance. He/She requires larger or more frequent wagers to experience the same “rush”.
3. Withdrawal. Restlessness or irritability associated with attempts to cease or reduce gambling.
4. Escape. Gambles to improve mood or escape problems.
5. Chasing. He/She tries to win back gambling losses by gambling.
6. Lying. Lies to hide his or her gambling habit.
7. Loss of control. He/She has unsuccessfully attempted to reduce gambling.
8. Illegal acts. He/She has broken the law in order to obtain gambling money or recover gambling losses.
9. Risked significant relationship. Gambles despite risking or losing a relationship, job, or other significant opportunity.
10. Bailout. He/She turns to family, friends, or another third party for financial assistance as a result of gambling.
How Can You Help Someone with a Gambling Problem?
If the problem is that they are gambling online, you can do a lot to help them. First of all, get rid of the temptation. That does not have to mean getting rid of the family computer or cancelling the Internet connection.
If your loved one admits to a problem and wants your help to overcome the problem, you can agree together to start by eliminating the easy access they have to gambling online. Simply by installing an effective web filter, you can easily block out gambling and betting websites from your PC, virtually eliminating the problem. A web filter, such as Optenet PC, is a software solution, that you install and manage on your computer. It can be a fast and easy way to curb a problem that is just beginning or helping a serious compulsive gambler eliminate the immediate access to online casinos.
A web filter is one of the most effective ways to protect children, teens and adults from exposure to online gambling and betting sites. A Free filter trial is a good way to check if it is the right solution for you.
Do you find it difficult to tell someone you love them
Many people don’t know how to express themselves well, and if they want to tell someone that they love them, aren’t sure how to do it.
The truth is that there is no magic recipe, there is no right way to do it.
You should pick an occasion that seems right to you. But be sure that you don’t rush it – take time to think about your feelings and be sure that it is love that you are feeling.
If you are going to tell someone that you love them, then make sure you do it at a quiet time where it is just the two of you in private.
Smile at them and look into their eyes and tell them. Make it romantic, but don’t make it the be all and end all.
If they reciprocate then that’s great, but if not – don’t worry – it doesn’t mean that they don’t like you too but it might be too soon for them or they might just be too shy to say what they are really feeling.
If you cannot find the right words yourself, use one of our poems for inspiration and adapt it to your own feelings.
For example use some quotes from You Are The Love Of My Life.
You are the love of my life. I wanted to send you this special message to show you how much you mean to me. You are always there for me through the ups and the downs. You know how to make me laugh and you know how to make me smile, but most importantly you complete me. You make me so happy.You are very special. I love you so much and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I want to be with you forever, together as one.
For more poems and to see some success stories go to A Message in a Bottle
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Do you find it difficult to tell someone you love them
Many people don’t know how to express themselves well, and if they want to tell someone that they love them, aren’t sure how to do it.
The truth is that there is no magic recipe, there is no right way to do it.
You should pick an occasion that seems right to you. But be sure that you don’t rush it – take time to think about your feelings and be sure that it is love that you are feeling.
If you are going to tell someone that you love them, then make sure you do it at a quiet time where it is just the two of you in private.
If you find it difficult to express your feelings use one of our poem templates, or take parts from other poems to create a truly unique personalised love letter.
For more Love poems go to A Message in a Bottle
A Special World
A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.
Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.
And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.
So if you need to Tell Someone Special You Love Them tell them in a unique and personal way by sending them A Message in a Bottle
Maybe you need to Say Sorry, Happy Birthday, Congratulations or Just To Tell Someone You Love Them.
So forget boring flowers or chocolates and send someone a personal message in a bottle.
It is a truly unique way of sending your thoughts in a way that will never be forgotten.
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