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Saturday, July 10th, 2010

The Importance Of Solving Marriage Problems Early

When you got married, you need to be prepared to face various problems that come into every marriage. It is normal to have marriage problems. They are a part of a marriage and they can in fact strengthen the bond between you and your spouse. However, some couples keep neglecting those problems in vain hope that they will disappear by themselves. It can happen, but in most cases, they will escalate and can jeopardize your marriage.

Some studies have found that accumulated angers and resentments can eventually explode and create serious damages in marriage lives. It is important to solve problems immediately so you do not give any chances to the problems to grow into something that will create serious damages. It is a good strategy to solve marriage problems as early as possible if you want to prevent disasters.

Pay attention to common signs and address them

You need to be sensitive if you want to solve marriage problems as early as possible. Understand these common signs and never ignore them when you notice the signs in your marriage life. One sign that you need to pay attention at is any changes in your spouse behaviors. Try to find the causes of these changes. Many times, irritability and restlessness are potent signs of underlying marriage problems. Therefore, it is necessary to spend some time to resolve the situation so it does not escalate into something dangerous.

Communication is the key to uncover these underlying problems. It is good if you can take some time off and spend a good quality time with your spouse. Plan a romantic date with him or her that will ease the tension between the two of you. Do not immediately raise the issue and confront your spouse directly about the reason on why he or she acts strangely recently. Just have a good and fun time with your spouse. Normally it is much easier to initiate open communication when both couples are relaxed.

However, if you notice that your spouse is not comfortable to start talking about the problems, then it is best not to push to hard. Just wait until your spouse is ready. If you keep pushing, he or she will get defensive and it will strain the relationship further. In this case, going for a short vacation can become a good solution. Sometimes the situation at home or workplace is too stressful for your spouse and a good vacation can get him or her away from those unpleasant situations. It is a good chance for you and your spouse to have privacy so the two of you can have a long discussion.

The most important thing is that you should never let marriage problems persist for a long period of time. If you do not do anything, your marriage will suffer and it can lead to a divorce. Therefore, you must never too busy when it comes to your marriage. You have said the marriage vow and you need to do everything in your power to make it work.

Cindy Heller is a professional writer. To learn more about the art of making marriage work, please visit ways to save a marriage.

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Monday, June 28th, 2010

7 Creative Problem Solving Techniques

Have you ever encountered a problem only to become stumped trying to come up with a solution? How often have you found yourself saying that there is just no possible answer and you think that you have reached a dead end?

From time to time the problems that we are faced with may be so huge that one may feel like they are hammering against a brick wall. The stress involved with having to solve such a problem can be more than just a little overwhelming.

But have faith and rejoice, for there may be hope yet!

With a more optimistic mindset, a person will find that they are more creative when solving their problems. This article identifies seven creative problem-solving techniques.

1. Take note of assumptions and constraints with the problem. Oftentimes, these assumptions can obstruct our view of possible solutions. Note which assumptions are not valid and which need to be addressed.

2. You need to take a hard look at what the problem really is. Know the problem and have a concrete understanding of what it is about. By knowing what the problem is and how it works, you may find that you will have built a better foundation towards solving the problem.

Identify all the participating entities and then decide what their relationship is to one another. Take note of all the things you stand to gain or loss due to the current problem. Once you have considered the following you should have a clear and simple statement of what the problem is.

3. Try solving the problem in parts. For example, going from the more general views to the more detailed parts of the problem may solve it. This method is called the top down approach. First, write down a question and then come up with a general one-sentence solution, now you will be able to develop the solution even further.

4. It is important to keep a creative and analytical voice of reason at the back of your head. If someone else suggests a solution, be creative, think of how to make the solution work. Also think realistically and look for any possible weak links in the suggested solution.

5. Remain open-minded to the fact that there may be more than one solution to the problem. Keep track of them and go with the one that best fits your situation.

6. You know the old saying, “two heads are better than one.” It is so very true, so remember to be open to new ideas. There may be answers for problems that you thought were unsolvable. You will benefit from listening to others, especially when the information is coming from someone who has had experience with a similar problem to yours.

7. Be patient. There is always the chance that the solution will present itself. Remember, no one is able to come up with the right invention the first time around.

So the next time that a problem arises and you think that you are unable to solve it, think again. The solution could be staring you in the face. It just takes some planning, time and a little creative thinking.

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of besuccessfulnews.com, a site that provides information and articles on how to succeed in your own home or small business.

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Sunday, June 27th, 2010

Great Relationship Problem Solving Technique

This is one of my all time favourite problem solving techniques, and I use it on a regular basis with clients who find it hard to get along other people. If you’re going around in circles with a relationship problem, it can really help to step back and break the problem down into groups. Here’s how to do it:

First, think of a small problem you are having in your life right now. Don’t try to tackle anything too big just yet, just get used to using this technique and then when you get more skilled at it you can try it with some larger problems. The idea is to separate your problem into three groups.

GROUP ONE: Parts of the Problem That Come From Other People

Write down all the parts of this particular problem that are brought to it by other people. Now, I know it’s tempting to lump all of the parts into this group, because it’s so easy to blame others for what is not working in our lives; but try to resist this temptation! And let’s face it – other people are not responsible for EVERY part of your problem. So be honest with yourself.

GROUP TWO: The Facts about Your problem

In this group, you are going to write down the facts. For example, let’s say your partner won’t spend enough time with you and the family. In this group, one of the facts you could write would be “We need ___ to spend more time at home”.

GROUP THREE: YOU

Now you are going to list all the parts of the problem that YOU bring to it. Many of the things you write down here will be related to your reaction to the situation. For instance, do you sulk or berate your partner when he/she chooses to spend time away from home? How does this contribute to your problem? What reaction do you get? Be sure to write down any of your own personal triggers from past circumstances or relationships which may be contributing to this problem.

OK: Time to Start Culling…

When you have created the three categories for your problem, pick up the list for Group #1. (Other People). Now, screw up this piece of paper and throw it in the bin. Why? Because…..

*** You cannot change OTHER PEOPLE ***

But how great would it be if we could? We’d live blissfully in a world full of people who were just like us….or would we?? Now, I’m not saying that people will not change of their own accord. It just means that if they do change, it will be because they choose to, not because you tell them that they should. Don’t waste your time and energy on those parts of the problem that you cannot control!

Okay, now do the same with the group 2 list; screw it up and throw it away! Because….

*** You cannot change the facts ***

So now, all that is left is the list you have made for group 3. Your problem has just gotten a whole lot smaller because you’ve thrown away 2 of the lists! Have a good look at this third list. Are there any things in the list you have made that you feel you truly cannot change? If so, remove these items from the list – you must only use your energy on the things you do have the ability to influence.

Now, looking at the remaining things on the list, are there any things that you do not want to change? This is really important! If you don’t want to change something about yourself, then you will not; it’s that simple! But keep this in mind; writing this list is all about taking personal responsibility for what is not working in your life. This technique will help you to focus on the parts of your problem that you CAN do something about. By now, you should have in your hot little hand a practical, do-able list that you can turn into an action plan. So the message is clear….

Find out what you can do about it and then take action!

Sonia Devine is a qualified professional hypnotherapist and
success coach with a caring and committed approach to
healing, who lives in Melbourne, Australia. You can find
more of her information on ego, self image, love,
relationships, phobias and much more on her website
http://www.manifest-your-success.com