Love impairs the level of thinking. Making decisions become so hard since the mind is mostly preoccupied by the other person. This is what we usually call being madly in love. Love sickness causes the victim to think with the heart rather than with the head. Rational thinking is no longer important. Women love married men and men leave their families. Do not feel an idiot for doing all the wrong things. It is called love sickness. Love has a way of bringing obsession with it and it simply doesn’t ask why. It is actually possible to reach a state of hopelessness. You are desperately awaiting e-mails and text messages. If the expectation are not met, the heart is broken.

Nothing is more painful than a broken heart. This is love sickness at its best. Insomnia, mania and inflated self esteem are all signs of love sickness. People who are in love change there moods with no apparent reason. Ten minutes lateness or a missed call is enough reason to cause restlessness and depression. If you ask me, love sickness is the most dangerous condition and doctors should start taking its diagnosis seriously. A love smitten person can easily take away his/her life. We have heard of enough stories where lovers murdered each other and committed suicide too. This is caused by destabilized state of mind caused by falling in love.

Love sickness is a reality. Why else would a person lack sleep and drown in tears over another person? Many wonder and swear that they can never cry over a human being but love beats even the strongest of hearts and reduce them to nothing. The emotions, mind and a person’s behavior change and become weird than usual. The intense feelings inflate the moods. One feels increasingly moody. Sometimes so excited and some times so blue. If the insomnia is not arrested, this can be harmful to the body. Exhaustion sets in. Love can easily kill through this slow way. A stressed lover develops high blood pressure, cancer and other complications. Love sickness drives her/him slowly to her grave.

Real true love is patient. It will wait for the mate to be ready to take the relationship to another level. Never will true love force one to have sex with them to prove a point. No one has to sleep with anyone before the other person knows that they love them. True love is never about sex anyway. It is about companionship, love, care and understanding.  A deeper understanding of each other that only people who love each other and share things about each other really understands. So if you are not patient don’t say you love someone. You don’t. However do not worry, there is an amount of impatience that is acceptable.

Real true love is about being there for each other. If one of you is feeling down on himself or herself, the other person will be there to try to make them feel better about a situation. When the person is broke, do you avoid the person like he was some kind of a leaper? If you do so then you cannot say you have real true love. Real true love is about keeping it real and understanding that things can go wrong at one time, so wrong that both of you wouldn’t not know what to do but true love should be able to put a smile on your faces every time you think about the love for each other.

Real true love makes the world go round. It might never be able to provide food, shelter and drinks but it will provide you with peace. Peace that you might not be able to experience if you were not truly in love. If anyone should fail, true love is not going to judge him or her but rather try to get him or her to rise above their failures and try harder. That is just what true love can do to you. So incase you are wondering whether you and your mate have true love, look at how you behave and whether the two of you are patient, kind, loving, understanding, respectful of each other, caring and above all you spend time together and do not judge each other.

A large percentage of couples who break up blame it on incompatibility. Compatibility can mean being able to live and exist together without conflict. But would it help couples if they take free relationship compatibility tests before they get serious in the relationship?

Any couple can avail of the free relationship compatibility tests offered by various online matchmaking dating websites. Most dating websites offer free relationship compatibility tests as part of their service for their members, majority of whom are looking for possible longtime partners.

Each person has his own personality and quirks. You can just imagine the struggle that has to be faced by two people with different personalities living together in a single space. For how long can they bear the challenge of living together?

Free relationship compatibility tests can more or less give couples an idea of their chances in the relationship game. By taking relationship personality tests, couples are given a chance to know each other’s personality type and if such personality type matches their own. If not, then it can serve as a warning to the other as to what he has to live with if he decides to make a go of the relationship.

So what can couples expect when undergoing a free relationship compatibility test? Couples are tested on a variety of factors including their intuitive sense, how they process the information they get and how they apply such information in their daily lives including the relationships they have.

While compatibility tests does not assure couples that they will live happily ever after, undergoing relationship compatibility tests and passing them will however give them a better chance of keeping the relationship intact, Couples should not take relationship compatibility tests as something that would make the relationship work and last. Rather, they should treat relationship compatibility tests as a map that will give them an idea of what kind of person they are going to live with for the rest of their lives.

Determining the compatibility of a couple through a relationship test plays a great role in taming their expectations of each other. Knowing the personality trait of your partner can go a long way in adjusting your expectations and behavior towards that person as against not knowing anything about him at all.

The relationship compatibility test may reveal that you are more on the rational side while your partner tends to be emotional. Knowing this will give both of you the opportunity to rely on each other’s strengths when certain relationship issues come along.

There are several aspects in a relationship that are considered when taking free compatibility tests such as how the couples communicate with each other, how they view money matters, their attitude towards sex, values and how they view gender roles.

One of the reasons behind the “incompatibility” claim made by couples is the difference in the way they communicate with each other. Most often, the culprit is not really incompatibility by itself but failure to communicate properly. Proper communication with each other is the key to a successful relationship.

Another aspect that has caused problems in many relationships and has in fact been the major cause of break up is the lack of sexual compatibility. Knowing how you are your partner match and fare in your sexual preferences can make or break your relationship.

It is also important to take note of a couple’s perspective towards money and how it should be spent. Another important aspect is how each partner views gender roles in the family. A person may be too caught up with his machismo to the point of getting into constant arguments with his partner as to who would do the dishes.

Keeping relationships healthy and successful really depends on compatibility or how you co-exist. Taking free relationship compatibility tests can reveal a totally new person from the one you have been accustomed to. Knowing your personality styles can help you make that final decision and commitment to your partner.

Copyright 2006, Vincent Yim – www.eDatingHub.com

How does a relationship between a woman and a man begin? First date. You are excited, thrilled, your heart is beating, you can’t think clear. Second date. Third….tenth…. your heart is not beating that way anymore but you continue with this relationship. Second stage – first touch of hands. It is electrifying. And again your heart is beating and you are excited. Weeks after that you get used to the touch and it is not excited anymore. Next stage – first hug. Then first kiss. But you always get used to them and it is not the same. For two-three months you will discover new feelings and new experience and you think it is going to last forever. But that is not true. Why? Because then they have nowhere to go. And here it comes the disappointment. You start thinking that your love has gone. It hasn’t. It was just not there before. Love is not gone. Your falling in love is gone. Love is a state of two people. Falling in love is a feeling, a strong feeling but not real. When you are in love, you are full of feelings and very excited. When you love, you will be not that excited but your love will stay.

The problem with love is also not to choose the subject of love but to have the ability to love. If you are able to love, the only thing you can pray for is to meet a person who is able to love too. We all need love. We all think many times that our feeling is love. But it is not always true. If our relationship gives us pain, pay attention. Maybe this relationship is ill. And we may call it not love but dependence. However this dependence makes us feel unhappy. There is not real trust and intimacy in such relationships. You absolutely depend on your partner’s interests and give up your own goals and desires.

In order to establish an emotional connection with somebody else you must have emotional freedom. Real love is not possessive and selfish. When you really love somebody you do not take advantages and you don’t accept your partner as your own property. On the contrary, you respect and admire your partner. You do not feel disturbed. The real love cries: “Yes, I can live without you but I love you and I want to live with you”. To be able to love means to be able to give. Not to make a deal with somebody. The real love is responsible. The real love accepts the partner the way he/she is. The real love has confidence. The real love helps and cares. Generally, the real love can exist only between mature and independent people.

Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color – you have to feel it know what it is. The reason it is hard to define real love is because you cannot experience it with your mind, and definitions are of the mind. Real love is a feeling that is the result of your intention to BE LOVING.

This very different than the intention to BE LOVED. The desire to be loved comes from the ego wounded part of ourselves, the part that believes we need to get love from others in order to feel filled and worthy – that real love is something we get rather than something we are and something we share.

This is what creates the confusion regarding love.

Real love is what you are – what your soul is – a spark of the Divine within. Love is what God/Spirit is. When your deepest desire is to be loving to yourself and others, this desire opens your heart and you become filled with the love that is as ubiquitous as the air you breathe. This is real love – the experience of Spirit that fills the emptiness within and lets you know that you are never alone.

Real Love in a Relationship

What about real love with another person? How do we know when we are experiencing real love?

Real love is what we experience when two or more people come together with open hearts already filled with love, and the love from their hearts overflows as it is openly and joyously shared.

If you come to a relationship with a feeling of emptiness and unworthiness, you cannot experience real love. Real love is not the cake – it is the icing on the cake. The cake needs to be the love that comes through you from Spirit, and the icing is the love you share with another or others.

If you expect another’s love to be the cake, then you will not experience real love, because you are coming from a closed heart and inner emptiness. REAL LOVE DOES NOT NEED ANYTHING FROM ANOTHER PERSON. It is like a waterfall flowing down inside from Spirit, filling the lake within and then flowing out in rivers and streams as it is shared others. However, when the heart is closed, then the lake is empty and becomes like a bottomless sinkhole, desperately attempting to suck love, attention and approval from others.

If you want to experience real love within a relationship, then you need to open – through your desire to BE LOVING – to unconditional love coming through you. You need to invite God-which-is-Love into your heart and become filled with it.

The challenge here is that you cannot desire to GET LOVE and BE LOVING at the same time. The intent to get love will always lead to a closed heart and controlling behavior, which shuts out love. The intent to be loving and to learn what is loving to yourself and others in any given moment is what opens the heart. When you choose the intent to be loving with yourself and others, you will experience real love.