True love lasts in more ways than you can imagine. When you love someone, no matter how far they go from you and no matter where they are the love you feel for them will always remain. This love you feel for them might even get stronger with distance. You will feel that you miss the person when he is not around and you will be able to keep the communication longer. The saying distance makes the heart fonder I think was meant for people who really love each other and not just for people who have a liking for you and when you get out of the door they forget you exist.
True love lasts forever; it is like a mothers love. No matter what her child does, she will not abandon it. When every other person says her baby is bad, ugly and all the mean things they could think of, she will be the only one that supports it. That to me is true love. If you have someone who is not your mother that loves you as much as you love yourself or more than you can probably love yourself then that to me is true love. Whatever you do, this person will not stop loving you. He or she will still treat you the way they used to before you committed a crime like I would like to put it. The love they feel for you will not be affected in any way their true love will last in bad and good times.
True love lasts forever because that is the way it was meant to be. Some people when they get married, they realize that they cannot stand each other. The men will stop coming home early and the women will stop respecting their husbands almost immediately after getting married. It is as if they discover something that is not appealing at all in the other person and they wish they could get out of the marriage. Most of the time when you observe these couples you will notice that they did not love each other to begin with and they entered into matrimony for other reasons other than love. Some of them got married because the society expects them to get married at a particular age while some of them get married because of the material possession that their partners have. If they loved each other, they would not be thinking of leaving each other, they would stick around for better for worse because true love is forever.
True love lasts in all kinds of situation. If you find that you and your partner always meet up when things are okay and happy you should ask yourself a lot of questions regarding whether your partner loves you or not. If you can, come up with a list showing the number of times you could count on your partner when you were feeling down or going through a difficult situation in your life. Compare this with the number of times he was there when you were happy and everything seemed fine. IF the list containing the number of times he was not there when you needed him you should know that he does not love you unless of course if he has a good explanation for being absent.
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After observing the riots in the Middle East and seeing the anger of Muslims over a cartoon of Muhammed, it prompted me to write this article.
Having seen all of that hate expressed over this cartoon also reminded me that hatred is never the path to true peace and happiness.
Since religion is supposed to make us better people, I have to ask the Muslim world, how can all of that hatred make me a better person?
As a Christian, the very linch pin of my faith is the idea of love. I’m not talking about the kind of love you see in the movies. That’s lust.
I’m talking about the kind of love that changes the world and makes it a better place to live. The kind of love that heals, that makes us want to be better human beings. The kind of love that would make the Good Samaritan want to stop on the side of the road and help a man he didn’t know simply because the man was in need.
The Bible teaches us that God is love (1 John 4:118). Jesus said that the greatest commandments were to love God, and then love our neighbor AS ourselves (Mark 12:28-31). This means that a crucial part of loving others involves loving ourselves so that we can love others.
However, he never explained what real love was in this passage. What is real love?
1 Corinthians 13 gives us an explanation. In verses four through eight, it explains what real love is: patient and kind, without envy, arrogance or rudeness, and it seeks the truth.
These values are old fashioned. We live in a society where people do evil things and then claim they made a mistake. That they shouldn’t suffer the consequences because what they did was a joke, they weren’t in their right minds, or any other myriad of excuses.
We live in a world where a cartoon causes more anger, and a deeper call for justice, than the deaths of millions over religious fervor.
Yet, what, as Christians, can we do? So why is it so hard for us to love? Why should we love our enemies? Why should we love people who may, at the very core of their existence, be evil?
The lack of the ability to love comes from being hurt. From holding onto our hurts and our pain. To carrying around the burden of our sin. There are many other reasons, but these are the most obvious and basic.
The path to learning to love others comes from learning to be whole. To heal. To find freedom from our sin. To let go of the pain, grudges, and hurts of the past. By letting go of these things, we become free. This is the kind of freedom Jesus offered us, a kind of freedom that isn’t available in any other religion.
Although other religions are bound by rulese, Christianity really isn’t. The enduring concept of Christianity is grace. Grace is an undeserved gift, the love and favor of God. If he can love us even when we dont deserved to be loved, how can we not love others?
I believe that only free people can truly love. Although there are many reasons that I chose to become a Christian, one of the main reasons was that Christianity offered a freedom, and a peace, that no other religion offered. With that freedom and peace comes a price though: it puts us in conflict with the world and the values of the world.
Another reason that it is hard for us to love others we don’t want to love is that it requires sacrifice. Sacrifice is an alien concept in our society today because it means putting the needs of others ahead of our own. It means paying a high price because we aren’t gratifying our own ego.
We also requires us to give up our preconceived notions and judgements of others. It requires that we care for those who may have unjustly wronged us because of their own selfish motives. What we don’t often understand is that loving others isn’t about who they are; it’s about who we are.
I believe that love is the most powerful force in the universe. I believe that love has the power to change the world that we live in. Love is the solution to the problems of the world.
Love is what gives us the capacity to truly change the world and make it a better place to live in. I’m sure that this sounds simplistic, but it’s the only force powerful enough to cure what truly ails us as human beings.
You may say, “but I’m only one person”. It doesn’t matter. It only takes one person to make the world a better place. Apply the principle of love in your life, and you will watch your whole life change, your whole world change. This is how true change begins, at an individual level.
Maybe you’re saying, “but what will others think of me?” When you truly love others, it really doesn’t matter what they think. The question now becomes, “how can I love others more”? Again, it’s the path to freedom.
If you haven’t gotten everything out of your faith in Christ you thought you’d receive when you became a Christian, maybe it’s time for a change. Christianity isn’t a religion anyway; it’s a way of life. It calls us to a different standard than that of the world, a standard that would make the world a better place if we only lived by it.
If your life isn’t all it should be today, try applying more love to it. After all, love is the only true path to lasting peace and happiness.
If you want more success in business, in your relationships, and in your life, try applying love to the situation. As you change, your world will change forever. For the better.
In the words of Newsong, “Love is the only solution”. So let’s start a “Love Revolution”.
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Building a healthy relationship is such a worthy goal to have. So many people simply drift through life and the experience of their relationship suffers as a consequence.
They can be like two strangers living together, simply going through the motions of daily activity, without any real connection between themselves, and lacking any elements of a healthy relationship.
This can mean, a couple get together, and before they know it, they have children. Given the time and effort required to raise children, this is their priority.
Building a healthy relationship does not even come into the equation. Children grow up and leave home, and couples end up in the empty nest position where they wonder what to do with themselves, living in an unhappy marriage. There is no indication of any traits of a healthy relationship.
Before long grandchildren fill the gap. This is now their focus and life goes on in an accustomed manner, and any signs of a healthy relationship are non existent.
It is easy to identify people in this situation, especially as they get older. They are the ones you see in restaurants or cafes, sitting opposite each other with barely a word being said between them. They look lost and lonely.
Whereas when people have building a healthy relationship as their goal, their experience of life is totally different. It means this is their priority, everything else fits in around them. They see each other as someone special.
It means couples make time for each other, they do not allow the distractions of life, such as work and having children, take precedence over this primary concern.
They always communicate, knowing how the other is feeling and managing their life. They have meals together, and organize having special moments, such as going to the movies or the theater, and having time away together. They have a very healthy relationship.
Building a healthy relationship also means each person has total respect for the other. There is no place for nastiness, aggravation or resentment in such an arrangement.
These latter traits, are some of the characteristics of unhealthy relationships, that eat away at people, and can literally lead to ill health.
Not only that, people can just feel so awful generally, and many people get stuck in these situations as patterns are established,and they end up in an unhappy marriage.
It can make their experience of life very depressing. In my view life is too short to remain in such circumstances, especially when there are opportunities for building a healthy relationship.
They don’t know, or realize, they do have a choice. They don’t have to stay in these types of relationships. Alternatively they could see a professional to help them make the changes required to have the characteristics of a healthy relationship.
If a couple were to do that, it is crucial they be clear about their motivation in order for there to be any satisfactory outcome.
Other aspects of building a healthy relationship include acknowledging each person in the relationship is of equal status.
This means there is no one in charge in the relationship. It is a partnership between two equals. I realize there will be some who will disagree with this view based on beliefs you may have, according to your understanding of scripture, or whatever.
When I shared this view with a group of Mormons I was asked to give a talk to, I got a standing ovation in response.
When each person holds the same status, it follows there is no longer any room for set roles in the relationship, which is usually to the woman’s disadvantage with no signs of a healthy relationship.
Now the building of a healthy relationship is demonstrated by each person sharing in the domestic and parental responsibilities.
No longer, when men are involved in these activities, is it viewed as helping, which has an inference that it is the man helping the woman do what is viewed as her responsibility.
I’m sure you will agree with me, when we talk about building a healthy relationship in this way, it makes such a difference to how we all can experience life.
This is to everyone’s advantage. It is a true win/win. This leads to us all having a more satisfying, richer and fulfilling life.
Leo Ryan is a counselor with over twenty years experience in the field dealing primarily with relationships.
He has given many talks, seminars and workshops on the subject, as well as being interviewed by all sectors of the media about his work.
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He is the author of the ebook “How to Have An Extraordinary Relationship”.
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Throughout my professional career I’ve come across many people that were lacking excitement in their relationship. Many of them have experienced some form of it in the beginning of their relationship- but they all seem to ask me the same question…”where did all the fun go…and how can I get it back?”
I know that when you’re starting a new relationship it may be fun, exciting, and there are few arguments (if any). Someone even compared it to buying a new car and having that new car smell. But what happens after all the fun stops?
Here’s what you can do to get the fun back:
1. Show your creative side. When it comes to making a successful, long-lasting relationship, sometimes we need to think outside of the box. Coming up with fresh ideas for love and romance (or even where the next place you’ll go to spend time together) could be the key to keeping your relationship thrilling.
2.Get Spontaneous. Do things “just because”. Surprise your partner by planning a nice romantic getaway. Summer is here, so traveling around this time may be very enjoyable for the both of you.
3. Talk to your partner. Find out from your partner why your relationship is starting to get boring. Are there things going on in his/her life (bills, work, etc) that’s stressing him/her out (this may be the reason for the lack of excitement)? Or is he/she just plainly losing interest in the relationship? Communicate with your partner to find out what’s going on and then take it from there.
Whatever you need to do to make your relationship more exciting, then do it. You have to be the pro-active one if you want to get the love life that you desire.
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Ever notice how you put more value on something you worked hard for over something else that just fell on your lap? A common example of this is when you see someone spend lottery winnings on a fancy house, but thinking twice about investing life savings.
When something comes with a great deal of effort, that object increases its worth to that person who went through a great deal to get it. The same can be said about relationships. Someone who was won over with little effort can be let go just as easily. But when one is made to invest time and resources, it is harder to let them simply slip away.
Guys, believe it or not, it is okay, if not healthy, to let your lady work at your relationship and making things slightly more challenging for her to get you. After all, women have been playing “hard to get” for the longest time. It’s only right that they be returned the favor.
You may agree, but then you may not know exactly how. So read on for some helpful ideas on letting your mate work on increasing the value of your relationship.
- Retain some enigma.
Perhaps in their eagerness to impress the ladies, guys nowadays tend to share information about themselves short of a resume. That leaves very little for a woman to build her curiosity on.
Women are creatures of curiosity. They are wired to hunt for information on something that they are interested in. Just looking at how they consume gossip magazines will show you that.
Let this work to your advantage by revealing just enough information about yourself to get them interested while giving them hints on how to find out more. For example, let her know that you two have a common friend, but only give hints as to who it is. If she is in the least interested, chances are she’ll be asking everyone she knows if they know you. As a result, you’ll probably be constantly on her mind – which is a very, very good thing.
- Challenge her views.
If you don’t agree with some things your lady believes to be the only truth, let her know your opinions as otherwise. You will find that she will engage you with a lot more enthusiasm, if only to win you over to her side.
The advantage to this is that if you get “won over” by the arguments she made for her case, she’d feel a greater sense of attachment to you. Just be careful in doing so as your challenge can very easily be perceived as picking a fight, which may turn out badly for the both of you.
- Acquire a new skill together.
Whether it is a craft or a sport, encourage your girl to take up something she’s never had before with you. As she agrees, subtly push her to perform better than you are. If you are a very competitive type of guy, this may be quite difficult for you.
But if you keep your competitiveness in check, and allow her to excel over you with this new skill, you help build her confidence while at the same time making you the focus of her efforts.
- Let her imagination work.
When you and your lady have reached the point where you are physically intimate, you access another aspect of your relationship where you can allow you lady to work on.
When it comes to sex, even if she has already encouraged you to talk about it the first time, do what you can to avoid the topic – at least long enough for her to ask the second time. At this point, indulge her with some ideas you have in mind but leave out the details.
Allowing her imagination to fill in the blanks has already got you set up in her mind about the possibilities of an incredible night with you. Remember, a woman’s most erogenous zone is her brain. Work this part of her and it’ll take all of her self-control not to jump you the next time you meet.
These ideas all work to get your woman to invest more time and effort on you, reinforcing the connection you two have made. But be sure to affirm these efforts and let her know that you notice the work she is putting in. Nothing makes her feel better than to know her man thinks she is not only a great partner, but someone who can stand well enough on her own.
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