If you are capable of loving, you are capable of living. Love is the soul of living, the heartbeat of life. Love is a great meditation. And love does not end in one relationship. Love is an endless phenomenon of relating.
Love appears as relationship but begins in deep solitude. Love expresses as relating but its source is not in relating, its source is in meditating. When you are absolutely happy in your aloneness, when the other is not a need, it is then that you are capable of love. If the other is your need, you can only exploit, manipulate, dominate but cannot love.
Because you depend on the other, possessiveness arises – out of fear. “Who knows? The other is with me today; tomorrow he may not be with me. Who knows about the next moment?” Your woman may have left you, your children may grow up and be gone, your husband might desert you. Who knows what the next moment may bring? Out of that fear of the future, you become very possessive. You create bondage around the person you think you love.
But love cannot create a prison. If love creates a prison, then what is left for hatred to do? Love brings freedom – love gives freedom. It is non-possessiveness. But that is possible only if you have known a totally different quality of love, one not of need but of sharing.
Love is sharing of overflowing joy. You are too full of joy, you cannot contain it, you have to share it. Then there is poetry and then there is something tremendously beautiful which is not of this world, something that comes from the beyond.
Often I say, learn the art of love. What I really mean is: learn the art of removing all that hinders love. It is a negative process. It is like digging a well – you go on removing layers of earth, stones, rocks and then suddenly there is water. The water that was always there as an undercurrent. When you remove all barriers, the water is available. So with love. Love is the undercurrent of your being. It is flowing, but there are many rocks, much earth to be removed. That’s what I mean when I say: learn the art of love. It is really not learning love but un-learning the ways of un-love.
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There are zillions of lovers who swear that they had fallen for each other at the first sight. Whereas there are others who are not as lucky and so have dismissed love-at-first-sight as an unrealistic proposition. They contend it is a concept cooked up by romantics who need a plausible theory to air-brush that deadly sin stirring inside them. They insist that the tingle, that spark, that connection that you feel with a person upon seeing him or her the first time is most probably LUST. It is not, nor can it be, love. Love is built on compatibility, understanding, trust, security, respect… None of these aspects can be gauged at the first meeting, and therefore, by logical reasoning, your feelings, however powerful, can not be love at all.
Infatuation is the name
In the same vein, love at first sight is an excuse often trotted by people who either don’t know, or don’t want to admit that the pull of a sexual attraction can be that intense. This may well sum up the beliefs of most modern lovers. “I used to believe that love at first sight isn’t such a sham as it is made out to be. His name was Jack and the first time I saw him, I was completely charmed. His good looks had an almost instantaneous magical effect on me. He was my neighbour’s cousin and I used to eagerly await birthdays and anniversary functions in the neighbourhood in the hope of seeing him. In fact, on such occasions, I made sure I wore a short skirt or something sexy. I would make special efforts to speak in my accented english in front of him until one day I met another guy whom I knew for six months and got involved with him. Jack was out of my mind and my life. It’s then I realised that love had a lot more to it than just physical attraction.
For many, love at first sight is just another way of saying infatuation. “I don’t think there is any such thing as love at first sight. It’s infatuation colour-coated as love. It’s purely physical in nature. Love should not be dishonoured by comparing it with something as amorous desire,” adds MNC executive Jess Jones.
There are others who also believe that it’s an immature emotion felt by young teenagers. A guy may have the best looks in the world but may turn out to be the biggest cheater too. Eventually one realises the value of compatibility, steadiness, understanding and commitment in sustaining a relationship. You can’t predict that a guy will share these with you at the first sight.
’tis true love
For every person who doesn’t believe in this, there are others who will defend love at first sight with a dogged determination. They argue that physical attraction is the first step to any relationship. It could be the person’s face, gait, hair or even butt that first attracts you to him/her. This is something called intution. “When I saw my girlfriend for the first time in school, I became completely lost in her eyes. She was new in the school and had an innocent look about her. I could feel my heart flutter with joy every time I saw her. There was an instant emotional connection. Although I couln’t gather the strength to confess my feelings to her till much later, my love withstood the vagaries of time. As a friend and a classmate, I was well aware of her ongoing affairs but somewhere I still had the embers of hope burning bright. It was three years of passing out school, that I confessed my feelings to her, that too with the help of her best friend. She was hesitant initially but today we are a happy couple. It was truly love at first sight for me”, says graphic designer Arun Vohra.
There can be love at first sight but the chances of success are as high or poor as the people involved in it. My brother met my sister-in-law and within three months they were married. I too married my husband in a similar fashion,” adds model Jessica Simons.
You may call it the stroke of luck or destiny, the truth is there are many relationships that grew out of the so-called Cupid that struck at first sight as many as there are others that haven’t worked out.
What’s the difference between lust and true love?
- Lust actually occurs when you first meet someone and feel a special connection. It is based on sexual chemistry and is accompanied by a rapid heartbeat, sweaty palms and, for an unfortunate few drooling. It is more like an infatuation than enduring love. It could stem from both physical and a mental attraction.
- The main difference between lust and love is that lust often happens when there is little chance of forming a relationship. Lust is safe way to explore your feelings for someone who you may think is unattainable. This can closely resemble love, and if your feelings don’t fizzle after you’ve snagged the object of them, then they can lead to love.
Michael Douglas is a dating and relationship expert who currently writes for Love-Lectures.com where you can find love tips for romancing your love mate and dating tips for yet another successful date. Also, he offers love relationship tips to strengthen your love life and helps you in building healthy and successful relationships.
Why people kiss or want to be kissed by their partners???
It is an expression of affection in romantic relationships that come from within the two conjugal lovers. Love can be expressed in thousands of ways but nobody can say which one is the most satisfactory for them.
You must have seen pairs of lovers sitting in a cozy pasture at your nearby park and making love for hours together leaving all the prosaic things behind. Sometimes, they are seen to play with each other’s private parts or are seen in a kissing posture. This is nothing new to this world of romantic love; the tradition has been going on since the origin of human race. But, can any couple truly claim that they are fully satisfied with their activities in parks under the greenwood tree? No!! They would prefer to have more sexual play to meet their desire. This urge for making love cannot be satisfied if it is not free from condition.
Even after a passionate intercourse, a couple may not be satisfied fully to open their heart for love; on the other hand, a single kiss can bring saturated love in your life. It is the psychology of lovers that determine the state of satisfaction…true love is boundless, free from all ethics of life; it can neither be restricted through any chain of conditions nor can be replaced by any earthly substance.
A married life is intended to bring happiness through love, emotions and feelings for each other. If there lays no emotion, sense of satisfaction and earnest eagerness to make love – nothing can bring peace, harmony and certainty in married life. It is quite obvious that after getting married, every couple would like to explore more fun through sex; but the common experience is altogether different. It is often found that instead of enjoyment, they are leading a hectic life full of conditions that revolves around ‘give and take policy’. Love is not love when conditions restrict normalcy of life. Take the incident for granted – a young boy to satisfy his urge for making love goes to a prostitute and does what is expected… keeping aside true love from her and as soon as the game is over he would have to stretch his hand for paying a lump some amount.
Relationship between the boy and the prostitute is too fragile to stay more than one or two hours. In this case, sex can be bought in exchange of money but cannot love. Marriage, though an institution, seems like a relationship between a truant boy and a prostitute, if it is not bounded by unconditional love. Faith, complacency and satisfaction are key words that can bring peace and harmony in any married couple, not mere sex. On the other hand sex is as important as the heart beats of life. Without sex life seems to be barren tract of land. This is why unconditional love is the primal force behind any strong relationships, especially for marriage.
The society is getting complicated every day and the relationships between human beings are no exception. Extra-marital affair is very common nowadays; but that relationship should also be cemented with unconditional love, otherwise the fun that you are looking for would not come to you. There is always a set of theory that rover around human mind in order to crave for any object that is beyond their reach. Extra marital affair is increasing like anything else. Unlike any other person, you would probably think of enjoying the body of other’s wife without letting know her husband.
This relationship would stay as long you crave and it stands on a definite cause. Suppose, both of you want to keep this relationship only because of having sex or to play with the private organs of each other; in such cases, the love that you possess for that lady or vice versa is controlled by conditions i.e. sex and nothing else. If there were true love in between two souls of you, both of you would feel for each other. Otherwise, it would again become just like the relationship of a young boy and prostitute. ‘Give and take policy’ can be applicable to deal with customers, but would never fruitful for a matured love affair. Love is devoid of any expectation; it does not demand anything from life. Only proper mentality and mindset is required.
The term ‘unconditional love’ should also be there in between two gays or lesbians. Preferences may alter depending on people; but unconditional love is static in every true relationship. It is the basis of any true association; it asks for trust, faith and friendship of two different souls. Unconditional love is ideal love, which brings peace, harmony, satisfaction and all the positive emotional feelings in life. It is difficult to follow the true paths of unconditional love in the mire of mundane life, but the fruits of unconditional love bring forth true sense to live on the breast of this mother earth.
“God is Love,” rather “Love is God.”
One who can see the fine difference between these two statements is the only true Lover of God. By nature, every one is after love, but only true saints and true servants of God have really experienced the awareness of Divine Love. There are two kinds of love: spiritual and sensual. The worldly, as well as those who seek God, are all within the field of physical or sensual pleasures until they realize God.
Anytime an action or emotion partially or wholly involves anything that is in the realm of the ever changing Prakriti, such as bodies, organs, senses, pranas, the mind, intellect or ego, it is considered a physical or sensual pleasure. Such pleasures must keep changing and come to an end, which results in misery. In the devotional paths, a devotee ultimately becomes Love where duality exists no more. Radha is Krishna or Krishna is Radha, but these two identities cannot exist simultaneously. Such is the ultimate nature of Love. The aspirant who prefers to use the path of discrimination ultimately experiences self-realization where Love alone remains.
When we speak of Love, we are talking about the true ultimate Love that depends on no objects, persons, circumstances, time, place, events or reasons because all those must constantly change and come to an end. Such a finite love is no good for a person seeking Eternal Love, without which one will never find eternal peace. We, being sparks of that Love, cannot be pleased with anything less than that Supreme Love.
Love never bargains, trades or expects. Love never complains, never demands, and never hopes. Love never accepts anything less than Love, and therefore, never lowers itself to physical, mental or intellectual pleasures. Love cannot be measured, imagined, argued about or logically arrived at. Only full faith and complete surrender to the will of Love enables us to totally dissolve our ego and merge into this ocean of love.
As Brihadaranyakam Upanishad says, “Verily, it is not for the sake of the body of a wife that a wife is dear, but for the sake of the Love or Self (Atman) in her that the wife is dear.” This statement also applies to husband, sons, wealth, name and fame, gods, creatures and all creation. To experience true Love is the goal of all of the Yogas presented in the Gita. A beautiful experience awaits all of us only if we will listen, practice, meditate and absolve ourselves as directed by Mother Gita.
Swami Radhanandaji has written extensively on divine love, the path to divine love, and the divine love incarnate Mirabai. Read more of about the path of divine love at http://www.gitananda.org
If you’re a hopeless romantic, nothing can bring a smile to your face quite like cute love quotes can. The problem is, finding cute love quotes that aren’t cheesy can be a bit harder than one might imagine. That being said, they are indeed out there. Here are 20 cute love quotes that are anything but cheese.
1. “Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means.” ~ Leo Buscaglia
2. “Love builds bridges where there are none.” ~ R. H. Delaney
3. “Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.” ~ Comte DeBussy-Rabutin
4. “Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your heart or burn down your house, you can never tell.” ~ Joan Crawford
5. “When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.” ~ Elizabeth Bowen
6. “Love is too strong a word to say it too early, but it has too beautiful a meaning to say it too late.” ~ Kurt Cornish
7. “What the world really needs is more love and less paperwork.” ~ Pearl Bailey
8. “Love is the only gold.” ~ Alfred, Lord Tennyson
9. “LOVE: The irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” ~ Mark Twain
10. “Marrying for love may be a bit risky, but it is so honest that God can’t help but smile on it.” ~ Josh Billings
11. “I don’t want to live– I want to love first, And live incidentally.” ~ Zelda Fitzgerald,
12. “Love is like an hourglass with the heart filling up as the brain empties.” ~ Jules Renard
13. “Love, like a river, will cut a new path whenever it meets an obstacle.” ~ Crystal Middlemas
14. “Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” ~ Franklin P. Jones
15. “Love is the wisdom of the fool and the folly of the wise.” ~ Samuel Johnson
16. “It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it, but few have seen it.” ~ Francois De La Rochefoucauld
17. “If only one could tell true love from false love as one can tell mushrooms from toadstools.” ~ Katherine Mansfield
18. “Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.” ~ H. L. Mencken
19. “Gravitation can not be held responsible for people falling in love” ~Albert Einstein
20. “Everyone admits that love is wonderful and necessary, yet no one agrees on just what it is.” ~ Diane Ackerman
Who says cute love quotes have to be cheesy? These twenty love quotes prove otherwise. The next time you find an anti-romantic in need of romantic inspiration, share these cute love quotes with them and prove that love is worth pursuing!
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