Aug 11 '10 There are Twenty Five Words or Less for Connecting With Your Love Ones for Your Personal Making Up Relationship

0 COMMENT   

There are twenty five words or less for connecting with your love ones for your personal making up relationship

 

 

 

 

 

Does this sound familiar? You only intended to get something cold to drink at the local Quick Trip® and on the way back to your car, you stopped by the rusty rack outside and scanned the selection of local magazines chock full of personal ads.

You couldn’t resist picking up the copy with a picture of a good looking couple proclaimed to be their most recent “personal ads” success story. Suddenly, you find yourself scanning the “personals,” strictly for entertainment purposes, of course. You flip over to whatever section you might fit into to see what kind of people might be there. Oh, what fun!

 

 

You notice that there are some words in those ads that always seem to pop up; attractive and fun loving. Pretty redundant, huh? The people all appear to be exercise freaks, love to have fun and love the outdoors; surely they over-exaggerate. Your chances of meeting that special someone from this motley crew are about as slim as winning the lottery.

 

 

What kind of a person would really advertise for a love partner? They would have to be someone who can’t get a date; social outcasts, right? They all have to be fifty pounds overweight, totally desperate for love and look like Elmer Fudd or Roseanne. Your thoughts turn to who would actually be brave enough to call the phone number listed at the end of the ad and just how much cash would someone be willing to part with to place these silly personal ads or make that 900 number call?

 

 

Our passion to find a playmate with which we can share laughs, have fun with or perhaps even spend the rest of our life with is so strong that we often go to almost any lengths to make the connection. Personal ads are big business. You will find them everywhere; magazines, newspapers, television, radio, billboards and the latest high tech ads are now appearing on the internet and the online services.

 

 

Those who are willing to learn the strategies of placing an ad, using the right words for maximum results, how to return calls, introducing you and where to place the ad, may be in for a great surprise. What if they worked? While some might scoff at the very thought of “advertising” for a love partner, the many successful relationships that have occurred as a result of personal ads tells me that it is a viable way to attract a playmate, with a few caveats.

 

 

By applying the appropriate safety precautions, i.e., never give anyone your home or work address and avoid home phone numbers until you know them better, meet in busy public places (preferably in the afternoon), and in the beginning avoid “romantic dinners”. . . meeting people by personal ads has come of age. When you discover someone you want to meet, ask them if they mind if you bring a friend. If this freaks them out, run the other way.

 

 

By the way, the same advice is relevant for people who decide to meet someone in person that they have only met in an online chat room. Remember, it is very easy to hide behind a screen name. Advertising yourself is a fun way to meet people. It’s about meeting people for the purpose of having someone special in your life, to have someone to talk with, to develop a healthy love relationship with, for mutual interests or just for the fun of meeting new friends.

 

 

My work with Dr. John Gray, Ph.D., author of “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus,” as former host of his online chat room and my “Relationship Enrichment Love Shops” presented nationally, have highlighted two of the most common problems that occur in relationships.

 

 

First is undelivered communications.

When meeting singles through the personals, it is wise to play your cards close until you have had several face-to-face meetings and feel comfortable enough to begin fully sharing yourself. This occurs when there is a real connection; a mutual attraction and you both choose to pursue a relationship together.

 

 

Often we withhold what we know really needs to be said and by doing so, we temporarily shut down communications in the relationship. Trust is the foundation of all healthy love relationships. There can be no trust without conversation; no genuine intimacy without trust. One of the secrets to having healthy love relationships is to never be afraid to openly and honestly discuss whatever is relevant to the success of the relationship.

 

 

The second most common problem in relationships is unfulfilled expectations.

When looking for a serious love relationship in the personal ads, it is important to put aside your expectations about how you “think” things will work out and be okay with the way they do. Once you know you are moving in the direction of a relationship, it is wise to let go of all of your expectations. A problem occurs when we expect our partner to love us a certain way and when they don’t, we are disappointed or, we expect them to do something or behave in a certain way, they don’t (they missed our subtle hints), and again we experience disappointment. By the way, subtle hints don’t work. No one can read your mind. Unfulfilled expectations cause relationship problems.

 

 

Instead we must learn to focus on what we “need” from the relationship. Everyone needs love. Discover the freedom that comes from allowing our love partner to love us the way “they” love us not the way we “expect” them to love us! We can best accomplish this by first discovering what we individually need from the relationship, then mutually communicating those needs to our love partner. So, if you decide to try the personal ads, here are my suggestions in 25 words or less:

 

 

Express yourself with honest words. Exercise caution when answering ads. Drop your expectations. Be yourself. Meet in a public place. Focus on having fun.

When you are ready . . . love will find you. Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans.

 

 

With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again. I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.

 

 

 

How to win your ex girlfriend back easily?

 

 

Watch a video that shows you exactly what you must NEVER do, what you should do to get your ex back and why at Win Your Ex girlfriend Back Website.

 

 

You will also learn how to reverse the situation if you have already done those things that should NEVER be done.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jul 30 '10 Your Relationship Rescue in 5 Steps or Less

0 COMMENT   

Does it seem like you and your ex always fight even about the mundane things that doesn’t typically start a fight? Do you go to sleep mad at each other and don’t say anything to one another in the morning? If you are tired of living on pins and needles but still love your significant other, then it’s time to seek some advice on how to do a relationship rescue. Why it may seem impossible to fix your relationship, as long as there is still love and you both want to improve the relationship, any relationship can be salvaged.

How do you start with a relationship rescue? You need to follow these five steps outlined here:

First, don’t run away from the problem. All too often couples fight and walk away before resolving the issue. This is the worst thing they can do for each other. Yes, if it seems like it will get physical, both of you take a time out. However, if hurtful words are about all that will happen, take a deep breath and stop arguing with each other and certainly do not walk away. After both of you have calmed down, talk rationally about the issue.

Second, do not bad mouth the other person to people outside the relationship. This only adds fuel to the fire and your friends/family may always want to put their two cents in, making the situation even worse. While you may need someone to talk to about a particular issue regarding your partner, talk constructively about it and get advice. Sometimes, one person outside the relationship can help you see your significant other’s concern.

Third, if you both feel that the relationship rescue needs a bit more work, try talking with a professional about it. In fact, you can do one on one therapy or group couples’ therapy. If you choose to go with the latter, you will learn from other couples about the problems that plague your relationship. Sometimes you may wonder why you even fought at all when you hear other couples’ situations. Don’t be afraid to seek help from outside sources especially if you feel the relationship is worth salvaging. Find a relationship rescue source that puts you both at ease.

Fourth, remember to compromise from time to time. It doesn’t hurt to give in especially if it’s something not important enough to argue over. When it comes to money, calmly talk about what your partner wishes to do and make a compromise. You don’t have to give in on a habitual basis but at least consider every time the feelings of your partner.

Fifth, do something out of the blue for your significant other especially when they least expect it. When a relationship becomes stale and routine, do something that’s out of ordinary to keep the relationship fresh. Believe it or not, this can help heal matters in your relationship. It shows the other person you thought about them.

Now that you know the five steps for the relationship rescue, it’s time to put your plan into action. If you believe your relationship is worth saving, for whatever reason, then save it and work to continue saving it every day.