Is jealousy bad or good?

Sometimes, jealousy can do good. When you are jealous of the top student in your class, it can result for you to study harder to beat him or her. It can be a way for a person to improve, to change for the better. However, in some cases, especially with couples – Jealousy causes a lot of trouble.

In some stories, sometimes the lead character being jealous of his or her leading lady may sometimes be part of the story or to what they call the “twist” of the story. The girl gets courted by another guy because the leading guy is too shy to express his feelings, but because of that the guy changes and tries to win the girl’s heart. After that, everything goes on well and with a happy ending. But, in the real world this doesn’t happen that much.

That is, because admit it or not, if you are in a relationship and you’ve had other relationships before with other guys or girls – the tendency is that your current lover will get jealous. And sometimes, it gets hard for you to please him or her because it can get tiring.

Other times, one of the couple may want to feel being owned and try flirting with another girl or guy – but in the end get a bad result of losing trust and endless fights every night.

And lastly, just because you start to admire another girl or guy, and joke around how much she/he looks good – your partner feels useless to the point he wants to break up.

…and I know there are other more than these. Whatever they are, I wish something for every one having this problem in their relationships.

Seriously, STOP JEALOUSY. It will only break your heart.

It’s okay to jealous, but too much isn’t healthy

for a relationship anymore.

Because sometimes, it makes your partner feel as if you don’t give trust.

It makes him or her feel, you don’t feel the love they give

or see the efforts they do for you.

Do not judge what you see, try to ask your girl or boyfriend who are the people she or he talks to – sometimes by mistake, we get wrong ideas right? What if that guy you told her you saw was just a friend of his? And in some cases, what if it’s even one of her relatives?

Observe first, listen. You can only say a person is cheating on you when you feel as if he is not missing you, he is not calling you or he doesn’t care at all. If he does do that, an explanation would be great before you start reacting violently.

And if what you suspect is correct, do not be mad but try to look at yourself first.

Have I done something wrong so she doesn’t like me anymore?

Have I been a bad boy/girlfriend?

Am I not good enough?

But of course, if you feel as if the guy or girl is cheating on you

without no reason – that’s the time to dump the person.

Because relationships of such will just end nowhere.

It just doesn’t mean that while in a relationship it’s okay to be jealous because of simple jokes, and some excuses. Sometimes, we should try to see if their reasons are actually valid. Sometimes, it’s better we trust because in the end, if they do try to cheat us, IT IS NOT OUR LOSS. It is theirs because we gave our best, and we could have been the best if they didn’t cheated.

Remember this quote from the Bible?

Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude
Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things
Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away;
as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away
For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect;
but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away..

From: Corinthians

True love doesn’t fade, true love doesn’t end

and true love will always believe and never have doubts.

Just like how we should love God.