I want to share with you a secret to growing the kind of life you love. Before I do I must warn you. This secret is largely known and misunderstood, plus it is so common that few of us really focus on applying it daily.
I want to talk about LOVE. Love has many meanings depending on who you are talking to. However, when love is rightly understood and applied it creates an environment in your life that makes quantum leaps possible in every other area of your life.
Now, I must confess that for years I thought of love as merely an action or a feeling. Something you did to or for another, or a feeling that you felt because of what someone else did. While these definitions might loosely reflect truth they really serve to confuse us about the true nature of love.
Love is an environment. Love is something you put on, and truth be told it has more to do with you, then somebody else.
Love is best understood as a full bodied garment that one must put on and wear at all times. It is not simply an action but a way of being. Sadly, many who read this will have learned a version of love that is lived through a veil of judgment. Judging is actually the opposite of love and should have no place whatsoever in the life of one who practices love. When real love is practiced on all fronts of a person’s life they love not only all people but every happening and thing in their life. They are filled with gratitude for everything that is their life at all times.
They don’t fight the flow of God’s design in the universe but become attentive to it’s song and learn to dance to its rhythm. This then creates the right soil for hope to take root and faith to work its magic.
Here is where the gardening analogy comes into play. Think of creating your life like tending to a garden. If the soil, the environment, is good then anything will grow; and it will grow with ease. When the soil is hard, full of weeds, and generally poor, then you can still grow things but your selection of what you can grow is limited and it takes a lot more work.
When you and I create an environment of love in all directions, then manifesting and attracting the life we want is much easier.
Love leads to actions but it isn’t an action.
Love gives way to feelings but it isn’t a feeling.
Love may be expressed in a commitment but it isn’t a commitment.
Love must be worn! You must practice love for yourself, this means forgiving yourself, love for your past, love for the place you are in life, love for your dreams, love for your design, and love for all you meet.
Sure you could keep working hard to grow a beautiful life out of guilt, worry, control, judgment, anger, bitterness, and fear. AND maybe if you work hard enough and make the right choices you will actually bear the juicy fruit you desire.
BUT WHY? Why kill yourself when there is a better way?
FAITH, HOPE, and LOVE and the greatest of these is love.
To live, is to have problems and to “solve problems” is to grow intellectually,” quoted J. P. Guilford.
In other words, we all run into or face problems sometime, or the other. Problems can be work related, or personal problems and it can be said that one man’s solution to a problem could turn to be another’s nightmare. This is because according to Guilford’s “Structure of Intellect” (SI) theory, an individual’s performance on intelligence tests can be traced back to the underlying mental abilities, or factors of intelligence.
Personal Problem
About five years ago, I became handicapped and this put me in a catch-22 situation. Here I was all set to go out for any little excuse but for some reason or the other, I just couldn’t get myself to doing it. It was absolute misery and it wasn’t a surprise when things spiraled quickly out of control. I managed to alienate myself from most of my friends and family and infact did a good job of it. It was then the computer and the net came to my rescue. It’s funny which how much you can do with this machine. There is enormous potential out there for mothers based at home who can work out wonders with this machine and the net and this applies to men working from home as well
Since then, it became a full time relationship with the computer and net and the question of doing another job did not even arise. Now, the subject question here is; whenever you ever run into such serious problems, what are the methods or processes that have been adopted in resolving it.
Sometimes, the problems resolve itself like in my case, and all it required was some time. In other words, it did not require any outside help, such as a shrink to resolve it. Ofcourse, I did visit a shrink but that’s another story and we’ll leave that for a rainy day
I say this because when you encounter problems and tend to ignore them, they just disappear. It gives you the feeling that when you tend to ignore them, they just solve itself. It’s magical, solutions emerge from nowhere. In fact, this method made me more relaxed and I refused to view problems as they are. Instead I only view them as solutions that have encountered a minor setback or delay.
Theoretically, majority of the problems resolve themselves in the long run. All that remains are the worry and tension that it caused. In a time based scenario, the only “problem” is that we don’t know when the so-called problem would be resolved and the time-period could cause quite a bit of misery.
So let’s assume as per the subject topic we have run into a generic problem that need solutions. A problem as such cannot be described, as it must be remembered that no problem can exist in the absence of an objective. That is to say, we need to know exactly where we want to arrive so that we can properly determine our track, as well as direction.
In his lateral thinking theory, DeBono stressed the importance of “looking at a problem with a fresh perspective”. In other words, knowing our direction is an important aspect in problem solving.
Now, the first thing when I encounter a problem is change or restructure my way of thinking. For this I need sleep. By sleep, I mean a sound sleep. The sleep gives me a relaxed mind, and makes problem-solving far easier, instead of purely relying on intuition. After a sound sleep, your approach to solve the problem becomes more systematic, more balanced and logical. Starting from that point it becomes easier to see what lies in front of you.
The SIX Processes
After the sleep, it is better to split the problem into smaller problems and begin solving it step by step. It is realistic when you do this and write the processes down, as you would very soon begin to see the possible solutions that underlie within each problem. That is to say, in order to resolve problems effectively one has to understand the whole process and their role in making the problems work. And as we live in a talking culture, it is imperative that we put these things in writing. This procedure helps you identify the best solution embedded within each problem
After writing it down, the next step in our hypothetical problem is to identify pain points, if any, and identify the connections between the connecting pain points. This would help me understand the problem better and then take on the objectives and translate them into structured programs. Then I could evaluate which solution has the most advantages, and further break down these solutions into different stages, while at the same time conduct a SWOT analysis between solutions.
Thirdly, I will reflect on the possible solutions while consulting friends and relatives, and then conduct a strategic analysis and begin to tailor solutions according to feedback and sentiments. This would eventually result in deeper penetration and a larger perception of the whole problem
Stage number four is to evaluate all possible solutions, i.e., reviewing the problem point by point, while analyzing the pros and cons of each solution. The next step or stage number five is when I implement the decision. Last of all, stage number six is post-decision justification or evaluation of the outcome. Ofcourse this also means the implementation of any follow-up actions required.
Now the question is what have all these so called stages to do with my personal situation. Although, I applied all these processes, none of these methods were adopted in my case as the solution to my problem turned out to be time and patience. It was just out of frustration I started toying with the computer, and which eventually materialized in to a hobby and subsequently into a job. It is only when you encounter or run into problems, only then, these so called strategies materialize. In other words, it is only when you start visualizing the problem mathematically, you begin to analyze what the problem really is, and start approaching it in an organized and logical manner. Then the whole problem becomes easier to solve.
Conclusion
It is only when you start visualizing the problem mathematically, you begin to analyze what the problem really is and start approaching it in an organized and logical manner. Then the whole problem becomes easier to solve.
Don’t ever make the mistake of making the problem bigger than it is, as any solution appears to be good, and the actual problem is only as big as you perceive it to be. You should always visualize that you are “bigger” than the problem itself. This gives it a positive outlook, which definitely counts in solving problems in the long run. Finally, never give up whatever the problem may be. Just stick in there. You will soon find a solution. Remember, it is just that problems help you to enhance your ability to live happily.
Once you solve a problem, the feeling and satisfaction of solving it is so great that explaining it has just no words. In Living a Life That Matters, Harold S. Kushner (the Massachusetts rabbi whose best selling books include When Bad Things Happen to Good People) suggests that the most successful lives are the ones that most effectively manage and “solve their problems”.
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