Love relationships have been termed as very complicated. They are known to make quite a few people sweat. Love is not simple business but, when you get to understand the essence of it, you will not be very worried of having a hard time. What is love and why do we have relationships? It is pretty difficult to answer this question in a conclusive way but, just like we take water to quench our thirst, we have love and relationships to fulfill our emotional and spiritual thirst. Love is a natural part of all of us and, we cannot hide from this fact. We need relationships not just for fulfillment but, to procreate and dominate the world further. Relationships of love come with very many advantages. The following are the good things that you can gain, when you are in love relationships. First, you will have honored the way of nature. All animals will get into a relationship of some kind because this is their nature. For humans, there is no exception. When you reach a certain age, you will find that all people will be expecting you to transition to the next level. You will then be considered a real person in society.
Love relationships will bring about companionship and friendship. Life can be too lonely for one person. For this reason, you need to wake up with somebody in your arms. Partnership in relationships will make a person whole. People, who live alone or single for a very long time, can find themselves detached from the social business of life. Statistics have shown that, people who are not married die much earlier than those who are in committed relationships. Do no resign to the uncertainty brought about by relationships. When you find the chance to love, you better go for it. Therefore, I cannot insist more on the need to have somebody close to you. Healthy love relationships will provide you with a shoulder to lean on. At some point in our lives, we will need that shoulder and it will make a huge difference. Another thing to gain from such relationships is pleasure. Sex is a major driving force when it comes to relationships. God designed us sexual beings for a reason and, physical needs will be met in relationships.
Love relationships bring us bundles of joy. The offspring that brightens up your life will come from relationships. Most people want to have children. Kids will grow to become important members of society and, having children is just a blessing. Relationships will offer financial support to you and, you can live in great comfort. There are so many other gains that I do not have time to mention. All in all, if you forget everything in this article, it is vital for you to keep in mind one thing. However difficult love can be, it is worth fighting for and worth having, if you do not have it, you really do not have anything. Make your relationships fun and exciting.
A good relationships book should help you understand some of the intricacies of love; how to establish and maneuver yourself through relationships. A relationships book is a guide that offers tips which will be vital in helping you build a relationship that will last. We all want relationships that will last long but, in many cases, we find that love and relationships can be very delicate. It is not easy building a relationship and you need the help of good resources like books on relationships. No one can claim to have a full understanding of what goes into making a relationship but, there are practical guides that you can follow to keep you in the right direction. Relationships are the very fabric of society and we would not be around if there were no relationships and love. This goes to show that relationships are worth sweating for and they are also worth fighting for. The minute you give up on relationships, a part of you will definitely be gone; we need each other to be completely happy. A good book will also give you the definition of relationships and how you can identify the person you want to enter into a relationship with.
Relationships books will always advice you to examine yourself first, before you make any moves. You need to be lovable if you want to find love. You can make yourself lovable by looking at what your values and beliefs are. You can also do something about your appearance like making sure that you look clean and neat. These little things have the power to determine the kind of relationships you attract. However, make sure that you are not entirely superficial. Many beautiful girls and handsome men are filthy on the inside and nobody would want to associate with them. Make sure to keep in mind what is most important; your personality and values. Be yourself at all time and you will meet compatible people. However, there is no harm in enhancing the person you are by acquiring admirable attributes. Relationships books will inform you that we all have room for improvement and when we do this as we establish relationships; it will work for our good.
Relationships books will have different tips for the two genders and for men, you need to understand a girl and win their hearts. With the right tools, winning the heart of a girl does not have to be an uphill task. One secret that you should know when you are a man is that girls love charm. Girls love real charm and not one that is unreal. Making an effort will always score you points but, you must be persistent. Be gentle and subtle with girls and they will keep you in a secret place in their hearts. At times when you do not have the right words to say, do not say anything at all, let your sincerity shine through. As a girl, you need to be down to earth. Many guys will look for someone who is mysterious and worth a good fight. Therefore, keep boys on their toes and show them you cannot be won over by one line. Above all, know what you want. Read more tips and see how relationships are established and maintained to last for a long time.
Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines love as, “strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties,” and defines lust as, “an intense longing”. These two conflicting definitions help to separate love from lust.
By definition alone the two differ in that, love is based on an affinity while lust is based solely on desire. The two also differ in how they affect a relationship but sometimes it becomes difficult to separate the two because lust can exist in the presence of love. Analyzing a loving relationship and a lustful relationship separately will help us to learn to distinguish love from lust.
Love has a positive affect on a relationship because when love exists in a relationship both partners hold the happiness of the other in a high esteem and place the happiness of their partner ahead of their own desires.
Love affects relationships in a myriad of ways including how the couple interacts, the leisure activities they participate in and the longevity of the relationship. In a loving relationship the couple behaves thoughtfully towards each other and is mindful of their partner’s feelings. In this type of relationship, each partner places themselves ahead of their partner and they strive to treat each other lovingly and with respect. Also, in a loving relationship the leisure activities that the couple participates in are based on a mutual love and respect.
Activities are chosen with careful consideration to the partner’s feelings. In a loving relationship the partners typically engage in activities that they either either strongly agree on or those that are a compromise. While a couple in a loving relationship may not always be in complete agreement regarding leisure activities, they strive to compromise to ensure that both partners have the opportunity to engage in their preferred activities. Finally a relationship that is based on love is usually long lasting.
The presence of love in the relationship enables a couple to work through any problems or difficulties that arise in the relationship and helps the relationship to endure. The thoughtfulness and caring that exists in a loving relationship helps the relationship to grown and endure.
Conversely a lustful relationship may not necessary have a negative affect on a relationship but it also may not be as positive as a loving relationship. Similarly to love, lust also affects a relationship in regard to how the couple interacts, the activities the couple participate in and the durability of the relationship.
The primary difference between a lustful and a loving relationship is that while in a loving relationship the partners place a high value on the happiness of their partner, a lustful relationship is one in which the partners are consumed by their own desires. The partners in a lustful relationship place their needs and wants ahead of their partner’s desires. This alone is enough to make their partner feel disrespected and to not place a high value on the relationship.
The fundamental selfishness that exists in a lustful relationship trickles down and affects the activities in which the couple participates. While those in a loving relationship strive to compromise and find activities that they both enjoy, those in a lustful relationship are more prone to insist on participating in activities that they enjoy regardless of whether or not their partner will also enjoy this activity.
One final characteristic of a lustful relationship is that it is typically short lived. A lustful relationship is driven by passion and desire and once a goal is reached the partner becomes no longer desirable. With nothing else to drive the relationship it soon begins to wane and the couple often separates.
Lustful relationships are characterized by a selfishness and lack of respect that typically results in a short and tumultuous relationship.
Complicating the issue of separating love and lust is that it is often possible for lust to exist within a loving relationship. The existence of lust within a loving relationship is often driven by a desire to become closer to the partner. This is a natural occurrence as a physical relationship is extremely important in a romantic relationship.
When lust exists within a loving relationship it is not necessarily detrimental to the relationship. As long as the lust does not take over the love and become the dominant characteristic it can be a healthy part of the relationship. The opposite is not true, however.
A lustful relationship can not also include love. The primary characteristic of selfishness does not enable love to factor into a lustful relationship. Placing your own desires ahead of your partner’s precludes the formation of a loving bond.
While it’s not possible to have a lustful relationship with the existence of love a little bit of lust mixed into a loving relationship can lead to a closer connection and stronger bond for the couple.
Separating love from lust can be complicated but the key factors to remember is that a loving relationship is one based on selflessness and thoughtfulness while a lustful relationship is characterized by selfishness and thoughtlessness. These fundamental differences often affect whether or not a relationship will be long lasting and will endure the test of time.
The separation of love from lust is further complicated by the fact that lust can exist in a loving relationship. The opposite, however, is not possible. Understand that lust can factor into a loving relationship and have a positive affect on the relationship is key to understanding the differences between love and lust.
I thought I would write about the subject of Love from Lester’s viewpoint. He often said that Love was one of the most often used but misunderstood words in human experience. What Love brings to mind for most of us is that first kiss with our high school sweetheart, or meeting our spouse-to-be for the first time.
When we “fall in Love” there is a real chemical cocktail that is uncorked, poured into our blood, and we feel high, giddy , and for a time, the world is a blissful place. We see our beloved bathed in Love-colored hues, and he/she is perfect. I’ve often thought if they could put this into a pill, we’d have a drug problem of horrendous proportions!
Lester said that human Love is totally different from the way a Master defines Love, which is the real Love of Beingness/God. He said that human Love is a very limited thing. “You do this for me, and I will Love you.” I, in turn will do that for you, and you will Love me. In Latin, we use the term :Quid Pro Quo, or “this for that”.
There is the law of mutuality always running, and this so called Love due is partly a type of human arrangement for some kind of desired result. It could be a planned family, a promising business future, or a myriad of other lustful fantasies. There may or may not work out, and even if they do, there is no guarantee that Love, Inc. will survive.
After all, the reminder of that drug is always on our minds, and that is why we hear about so much infidelity and affairs. The same person who incited that cocktail just can’t do it any more. Sound familiar? On to what Lester had to say.
At a New York City impromptu short lecture Lester gave, he made this powerful statement, “LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, and you’ll you be so happy…and healthy…and prosperous!” How could that be? The secret lies in Lester’s definition of Love. “Love is total selflessness.” Wanting for the other one what he/she wants for themselves (not what we want).
Love is someone knowing that “I AM YOU.” Those reading this who are Sedona Method grads will remember that on the feeling chart, Love is very high, in ACCEPTANCE, right below total PEACE.
So, we need to query ourselves, “Am I really loving?” Probably not, most of the time. When we Love our pets or someone’s newborn infant, we feel this Love. Lester said that Love is Giving, with no thought of Receiving, wanting nothing from the other one. Difficult? Not really, according to Lester. He said, “Loving people is the easiest thing to do.”
Then why does it seem so hard to Love people? How many of you have heard others say, “If only people were as easy to Love as dogs.”
The reason for that is simple. We don’t want Love from them, just for them to be there when we get home, wag their tails or purr, take walks with us, etc., and Love us for what we are, not what we are not. They don’t remember our scolding yesterday, or that we forgot their favorite cookies. They exist in the NOW moment.
We humans have a hard time loving people because we fear rejection. We put up walls around ourselves to protect us from any more hurt and to buffer the pain we are sure is to come. We want Love instead of feeling safe to give Love. Lester said “Wanting equates to not having.” So when we want Love, we create the opposite, or rejection.
Lester was often heard to say, “Every feeling is a non-Love feeling.” Fear, Pride, Grief, Apathy, etc. are all expressions of non-Love. So when we release the Wanting Love program, it takes thousands of non-Love feelings with it! There resides the incredible power of the Sedona Method (Release Technique).
Lester told me if I became totally loving by using his technique, all my goals would just drop in by a mere effortless thought. Why? Because it is such a high state, you are in tune with the Whole Universe, which is ALL LOVING.
When the mind is quiet with no thoughts and feelings, all the power of one’s Self is available, untethered by the baggage of the past (the programs). The Big 3 Master Programs are released with the Sedona Method Release Technique Course.
Getting back to Lester’s statement at the lecture, if we would Love all the time, we would achieve a very successful and happy life. Loving totally would amazingly give us all the knowledge we seek as well. So what keeps us from doing this? Just holding on to non-Love feelings we think will protect us, but in fact cause us trouble.
The very fear of rejection causes us to be rejected. Anger at him/her for something said causes us to create the same thing over again with someone else! Also, because Love is such a high state, it automatically will bring up all the AGFLAP, or non-Love feelings, just as wording a goal in a high energy.
Once while in Sedona for an intensive, I made a goal, “I decide to Love people no matter what.” It stirred me up so badly I became violently ill and threw up for days. Lester nearly yelled at me, “Why did you stop releasing? You could have gone free!” We don’t like the insecure or rejected feelings, so we slow our progress down.
If you remember a time you were truly happy, you were most likely feeling very loving. Is it true? Maybe you were helping in a selfless way, or maybe giving a gift to someone you really wanted to make happy. You might have been teaching a child to ride a bike the first time or enjoying a video game with him.
A good exercise is to go back and find times when you were happy and investigate with the Method what got in the way. Or during the day, when someone does something to bother you, see if you can release and Love them anyway. You will find yourself lighter and happier, freer and freer.
Remember as Lester said, “LOVE LOVE LOVE, and you’ll be so happy….and healthy…and prosperous!!!”
“Whenever you’re in doubt about any action, ask yourself: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? You can also ask, what would love do now?”- Sri Harold Klemp (Spiritual Wisdom on Relationships, page 2)
…God’s love has already been given to you. Now all you need to do is accept God’s love and return it to life.” – Harold Klemp, “How the Inner Master Works,” pg110
“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate.” – A Child Speaking On “What Is Love?” By Alan Cohen
“…Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
True love will never fade unless it was all a lie – bmw
Love is a circle not a triangle – Sara Starr
Whether you are out in the world, or you’re at home, you are simply an instrument of God’s love in your universe.” – Sri Harold Klemp, The Language of Soul, pg 122
“And where there’s pure love, there is no room for anger of any kind.” – Sri Harold Klemp, The Language of Soul, pg 75
The shortest distance between two points is a straight line while the shortest distance between two hearts is Love Itself. – Austin Ogwu Chinuwa
Love is never where you think it is, but when u look closely u’ll see true love…- Honey
Loving you is like breathing. . . how can I stop? – Nicola
True Love comes from God, and love is demonstrated through character. – Philemon Laida
Love is the force that Connects us with God – Nigel Daring
With Love as one door closes, another opens – Tienah Nyanga
1. With love, the impossible becomes possible.
2. Love is the only universal language. It requires no words to understand.
3. Just before we die, nothing else matters in this world, except love.
4. Love and happiness go hand in hand.
5. Hate makes you blind, while love makes you see.
6. Love and hate are opposites. If people say love is the most important thing in the world, then what is hate?
7. Love gives life and hate destroys it.
8. You can never destroy the ones you love, only the ones you hate. So the only way to avoid destruction is to love.
9. Love is the only water that can quench the heart’s thirst.
10. E=MC² (the energy of love equals the amount of love or mass times the speed of light squared)
11. Love needs to display all its entire splendor, like a peacock, before it can be appreciated.
12. With love, words are not enough; it must be followed by loving actions.
13. I am painting the most important thing in this world love.
14. There is no true love between neighbors, until war becomes peace.
15. Love is a hole in the heart that needs a lifetime to fill.
16. Love is the inner sun, which keeps you warm and alive.
17. Love knows no colors.
18. The light of this world is pure love.
19. Open up your heart, and you will open up your mind.
20. Love answers to no one, except love.
21. Love to Live. Live to Love.
Quotes 1-21 above by : David Kam, Thinkism Art, http://www.thinkism.org
“Let not the hours pass by in the dark. Kindle the lamp of love with thy life.” – Rabindranath Tagore (Gitanjali pg. 10)
“If one gets his life together, there will be enough love and bounty to take care of every avenue of life.” – Harold Klemp, Cloak of Consciousness, pg. 164)
“Never frown because you never know who could fall in love with your smile.”-Kate H
“And we are given the gift of loving, that we might taste of our true self, and remember perhaps who we are.” – Oliver Mbamara
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” – St. Paul-1 Corinthians Ch 13
“As long as you always hold someone in your heart, you will never lose him.” – Snowman (Jack Frost)
“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” St. Paul -1 Corinthians.
“Love can shed a little light, but don’t take it lightly, for it can can really be” – Anthony F Amato Jr
“For you shall go through many lovers before you find the one, and when you do grasp them with all you have.” – Christeena Hanson
“Don’t hold to anger, hurt, or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.” – Leo Buscaglia
“Love is not blind, it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less.” – Rabbi J. Gordon
“Love means i care for you, i need you, and i love you…” – Leigh Ann Estabalaya
“Today Love smiled on me” – Red Hot Chili Peppers
“When you lose in LOVE, you gain a better understanding of what it means” – Andrew Ernest Carpio
“If Something Incredible Comes Along Take The Chance Grab It, Love It For All Its Worth.” – Jennifer Scipione
“God blessed us with hearts, so why not love everyone as he did.” – Nikki GA
“A path must demonstrate divine love if it’s to be a true path for its followers.” – Sri Harold Klemp, How To Survive Spiritually in our times, Pg.246)
“Giving someone all your love is not an assurance that they will pay you back, but if they don’t, be contented that love grew in you.” – Paulo Dino Ouano (Philippines)
“Abundance flourishes in a grateful heart; gratutude is the secret of love.” – Sri Harold Klemp, The Spiritual Laws of Life. pg165
“Love seeketh not itself to please, nor for itself hath any care, but for another gives its ease, and builds a heaven in hell’s despair.” – William Blake
“People love others not for who they are, but for how they make them feel.” – Irwin Federman
“To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best.” William Thackeray
“Love is a master key which opens the gate of happiness.” – Oliver Wedell Holmes
“Do you want to know the easiest way to fall in love? Just associate with all your pleasant experiences with someone, and disassociate from all the unpleasant ones.”
- Richard Bandler
“…healings occur easiest in an atmosphere of love.”
Sri Harold Klemp, The Living Word
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