Jul 31 '10 A Love Forum With Tips on Finding Love

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Love is a very wonderful feeling. Many times, this feeling can prove to be very complex. It is vital for us to understand what love is all about. As we seek the answers, it is vital to engage tools that can help us unravel the love mystery. One sure way of exploring the topic is through a love forum. This is a good place to discover and share great things about the issue and how to go about it. There is nothing more interesting than this and, you will be in a position to learn great tips on finding love. Some people find themselves already in love but, are not able to figure out what the next step is. When you fall in love, there are sparks that fly all over and, a love forum will break it down. Let us focus on tips on finding love according to a good forum. First, it is vital for you to understand the kind of love you are looking for. This is because some people will refer to a night of erotic adventure as love. If you are looking for something short term, you will not have many troubles. Look for people of like mind and, you will achieve your goal.

However, in a love forum, most people are looking for love that is long term; they are looking for their better halves. Love is something that cannot be measured easily but, when you are looking for a soul mate, you need to have bags full of love; when you are looking to create a life together. Many say that love grows and this is pretty much the case. If you nurture love, it will definitely increase and become great. According to a love forum, it is paramount for you to look for a person who you can love for the rest of your life. It is not always possible to have love last for the rest of your life but, it will take reviving the old love and making it even better. To find love, you must find someone that is compatible to you.

At this point, many people make the mistake of looking for compatibility on a superficial level. There are many who are beautiful and handsome but, this does not make them wife material or spouse material. Therefore at a good love forum, you will get to know that you need to look deeper at the attributes that please you. It is not always easy to make out true attributes of a person but, with time you will know them. Dates help you spend time with suitable candidates and yours should not just be to have fun but, to look for true love. Love can be found everywhere you find people. Therefore, do not come with an excuse that suitable people are nowhere to be found. Bite the bullet and go out on a limb; it will pay in the end. There is so much more to learn in this topic but, one thing to keep in mind is that while looking for love, be ready to offer love in return.

Jul 22 '10 Finding More Love in Your Life

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After observing the riots in the Middle East and seeing the anger of Muslims over a cartoon of Muhammed, it prompted me to write this article.

Having seen all of that hate expressed over this cartoon also reminded me that hatred is never the path to true peace and happiness.

Since religion is supposed to make us better people, I have to ask the Muslim world, how can all of that hatred make me a better person?

As a Christian, the very linch pin of my faith is the idea of love. I’m not talking about the kind of love you see in the movies. That’s lust.

I’m talking about the kind of love that changes the world and makes it a better place to live. The kind of love that heals, that makes us want to be better human beings. The kind of love that would make the Good Samaritan want to stop on the side of the road and help a man he didn’t know simply because the man was in need.

The Bible teaches us that God is love (1 John 4:118). Jesus said that the greatest commandments were to love God, and then love our neighbor AS ourselves (Mark 12:28-31). This means that a crucial part of loving others involves loving ourselves so that we can love others.

However, he never explained what real love was in this passage. What is real love?

1 Corinthians 13 gives us an explanation. In verses four through eight, it explains what real love is: patient and kind, without envy, arrogance or rudeness, and it seeks the truth.

These values are old fashioned. We live in a society where people do evil things and then claim they made a mistake. That they shouldn’t suffer the consequences because what they did was a joke, they weren’t in their right minds, or any other myriad of excuses.

We live in a world where a cartoon causes more anger, and a deeper call for justice, than the deaths of millions over religious fervor.

Yet, what, as Christians, can we do? So why is it so hard for us to love? Why should we love our enemies? Why should we love people who may, at the very core of their existence, be evil?

The lack of the ability to love comes from being hurt. From holding onto our hurts and our pain. To carrying around the burden of our sin. There are many other reasons, but these are the most obvious and basic.

The path to learning to love others comes from learning to be whole. To heal. To find freedom from our sin. To let go of the pain, grudges, and hurts of the past. By letting go of these things, we become free. This is the kind of freedom Jesus offered us, a kind of freedom that isn’t available in any other religion.

Although other religions are bound by rulese, Christianity really isn’t. The enduring concept of Christianity is grace. Grace is an undeserved gift, the love and favor of God. If he can love us even when we dont deserved to be loved, how can we not love others?

I believe that only free people can truly love. Although there are many reasons that I chose to become a Christian, one of the main reasons was that Christianity offered a freedom, and a peace, that no other religion offered. With that freedom and peace comes a price though: it puts us in conflict with the world and the values of the world.

Another reason that it is hard for us to love others we don’t want to love is that it requires sacrifice. Sacrifice is an alien concept in our society today because it means putting the needs of others ahead of our own. It means paying a high price because we aren’t gratifying our own ego.

We also requires us to give up our preconceived notions and judgements of others. It requires that we care for those who may have unjustly wronged us because of their own selfish motives. What we don’t often understand is that loving others isn’t about who they are; it’s about who we are.

I believe that love is the most powerful force in the universe. I believe that love has the power to change the world that we live in. Love is the solution to the problems of the world.

Love is what gives us the capacity to truly change the world and make it a better place to live in. I’m sure that this sounds simplistic, but it’s the only force powerful enough to cure what truly ails us as human beings.

You may say, “but I’m only one person”. It doesn’t matter. It only takes one person to make the world a better place. Apply the principle of love in your life, and you will watch your whole life change, your whole world change. This is how true change begins, at an individual level.

Maybe you’re saying, “but what will others think of me?” When you truly love others, it really doesn’t matter what they think. The question now becomes, “how can I love others more”? Again, it’s the path to freedom.

If you haven’t gotten everything out of your faith in Christ you thought you’d receive when you became a Christian, maybe it’s time for a change. Christianity isn’t a religion anyway; it’s a way of life. It calls us to a different standard than that of the world, a standard that would make the world a better place if we only lived by it.

If your life isn’t all it should be today, try applying more love to it. After all, love is the only true path to lasting peace and happiness.

If you want more success in business, in your relationships, and in your life, try applying love to the situation. As you change, your world will change forever. For the better.

In the words of Newsong, “Love is the only solution”. So let’s start a “Love Revolution”.

Jul 14 '10 Finding Answers For Your Aging Skin Problems

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As you get older there are many health problems that you might face. Your skin is one of the areas where you will face difficulties and problems. Aging skin problems could include wrinkling and fine lines, aging spots on skin and sagging skin. There are solutions to these skin problems, but the first thing that you will have to do is become educated on what does work and what will not.

The most effective way to combat aging skin problems is preventative medicine. Before your skin begins to show the signs of aging, you should take care to make sure that your skin is well taken care of. Having a skin care routine that will keep your skin clean and well moisturized is the first priority in preventing the problems that aging skin will face. Develop a routine for your skin that you will do with consistency. Using your skincare products consistently is the most important part of the routine.

Your healthy diet will help with your skin as it ages as well. Keeping your body properly hydrated is a great way to make sure that your skin gets the moisture that it needs. Remember that your skin is an organ and will require you to eat a healthy diet and exercise every day. Proper circulation and good healthy foods will keep your skin in good shape for a longer period of time.

Everyone faces aging skin problems eventually. Make sure that you use a good moisturizer on your skin every day. There should be a moisturizer that you use daily and one that is appropriate for night use. The moisturizer that you use for daily wear and your nightcream are two separate products and you should make sure that you find a high quality product for both of these uses.

Natural skincare is one of the best ways that you can make sure that you are doing the very best for your skin. There are many products on the market that claim to be natural but contain harmful ingredients. It is important that you do your research when you are looking for the best products. Find out what ingredients to look for and which ones you should stay away from. No skincare product can be completely natural. There is a certain degree of processing that is required for all products that are used as skincare. Keeping the ingredients as close as possible to the natural plant based ingredients will ensure that you are getting a natural skincare product.

To prevent aging spots on skin and other aging skin problems make sure that you always wear a sunscreen when you are out in the sun. The sun is responsible for many of the problems that are faced by aging skin. The problem that many people have with sunscreen is that they fail to reapply it as often as they should during the day. It is necessary to make sure that your skin is well protected at all times while you are out in the sun. Many of the aging skin problems that people face can be held off for a longer period of time if you are keeping your skin protected from environmental concerns like the harmful rays of the sun.

Jun 02 '10 Solving the Problem or Finding the Guilty – Which is More Effective Leadership?

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When things go wrong, does your organization put its energy into finding the guilty parties to blame? Or does your organization work to solve problems?

We have developed into a blaming society. Mom blames the older siblings when problems arise in the household. Teacher finds someone to blame when things go out of control in the class room. Management and unions blame each other. Political parties use blame in the extreme, and it is disruptive, subordinating national goals under political aims. Spouses unfortunately play the blame game to the destruction of marriages and families. Experts in many realms teach that making things better should be the focus of our energies. The barrier to this is blame.

Blame is the process of assigning responsibility for an event on another. Various emotions drive the blame, and it results in loss of face, embarrassment, fear and anger. It is unpleasant for all parties concerned. The language of blame and problem solving is distinctively different, and a study of real life situations could be constructive for managers hoping to rise above the cauldron of anger and blame. A manager may assign responsibility for a task without assigning blame. And you can hold someone accountable for results without blaming. The distinction is in the language and tone of the message. Robert Bacal, consultant from Casselman, Ontario gives some helpful scenarios:

Blame – ‘If you had done your work on time, we wouldn’t be in this mess.’

Factual statement – ‘Your responsibility is to fulfill your work commitments on time. When your work wasn’t available, I had to speak to the boss without the information I needed.’

The factual statement is the prelude to problem solving. The blame statement is bound to cause sparks to fly. Problem solving is focused on the present and the future. The goal is fixing a present problem and seeking to prevent it in the future.

Problem solving lacks the emotions of blaming, and it is less personal and more systems oriented. The problem solving process needs an understanding of the past and an understanding of the root causes of issues. It may include:

Clarifying the problem, goal or purpose

Collecting data, gain understanding

Diagnose, identify sources of problem

Formulate hypotheses for cause

Formulate a strategy for solution

Evaluate, collect more data

Note that assigning of blame is not part of the process. Neither is there room for emotional upheavals. Solving problems requires the use of a process, much of which was created by Deming. TQM, the quality system of modern companies, provides the structure and knowledge on how to solve problems the efficient way. Whether you are pursuing continuous improvement, organizational reinforcement, or improving performance on various levels, the issue of blame vs. problem solving is critical.

When problems occur, such as lack of performance, failure to meet commitments, etc, and you need to intervene, use problem solving. Begin by trying to understand the problem and underlying issues with the employee. Poor performance can be the result of boredom, stress, limited skills or knowledge, or other systems issues such as equipment or authority. Working with the employee to attack the root problem will help avoid it in the future. The focus is on the future. Additional scenarios by Robert Bacal:

Blame

Mgr: John, you should have let me know this work would not be ready for the meeting. We all looked stupid in front of the boss, and it’s going to take us time to recover.

John: I tried to tell you, but you were on vacation. And I forgot. You are very hard to get a hold of, you know.

Mgr: You could have called me at home.

John: I didn’t want to bother you. You said I shouldn’t call you unless it was absolutely urgent.

The manager attacks, and the employee defends. This could end up with attacks flying back and forth. The situation is not pleasant. Now look at how it could have gone:

Problem Solving

Mgr: John, I expected to have information from you prior to the teleconference. We need to figure out what happened and how to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Was I not clear on the date, or was there some other thing that caused us to miss the deadline?

John: Well, I might have misunderstood about the urgency, and when you went on vacation, I didn’t want to bother you at home.

Mgr: OK, well, how does this sound. If I need something on an urgent basis, I’ll make sure that I tell you in the future. I can also let people know when it is OK to call me at home, so it will be easier. I am also going to ask you to please keep me informed, though on projects like this we won’t be embarrassed again. Does this make sense?

John: Yes, and I have more input that may be useful….

You can feel the difference in the dialogues. The problem solving dialogue is neutral aimed at finding where the problem lies and works to prevent reoccurrence. Of course, it may not go this smoothly, and it is oversimplified.

Modeling problem solving in everything you do, staff meetings and other gatherings, is an excellent habit to form. When in a conference, and blame raises its ugly head, redirect with ‘what can we do, then, in the future?’ Seek a problem solving attitude when blame is assigned during a meeting. When you start doing this you begin to create a blameless culture, a responsible culture that discourages empty complaints that will put you in the middle of other people’s disputes.

Moving from blame to problem solving is a tough road because many people will not discern the difference. For some, being responsible also means to be at fault. When blame raises its head, return to the problem, ask diagnostic questions, begin to find root causes, and avoid being drawn into the blame game. In time, some people will begin to see the difference and trust that you are not blaming but attempting to fix the problem.