If you are capable of loving, you are capable of living. Love is the soul of living, the heartbeat of life. Love is a great meditation. And love does not end in one relationship. Love is an endless phenomenon of relating.
Love appears as relationship but begins in deep solitude. Love expresses as relating but its source is not in relating, its source is in meditating. When you are absolutely happy in your aloneness, when the other is not a need, it is then that you are capable of love. If the other is your need, you can only exploit, manipulate, dominate but cannot love.
Because you depend on the other, possessiveness arises – out of fear. “Who knows? The other is with me today; tomorrow he may not be with me. Who knows about the next moment?” Your woman may have left you, your children may grow up and be gone, your husband might desert you. Who knows what the next moment may bring? Out of that fear of the future, you become very possessive. You create bondage around the person you think you love.
But love cannot create a prison. If love creates a prison, then what is left for hatred to do? Love brings freedom – love gives freedom. It is non-possessiveness. But that is possible only if you have known a totally different quality of love, one not of need but of sharing.
Love is sharing of overflowing joy. You are too full of joy, you cannot contain it, you have to share it. Then there is poetry and then there is something tremendously beautiful which is not of this world, something that comes from the beyond.
Often I say, learn the art of love. What I really mean is: learn the art of removing all that hinders love. It is a negative process. It is like digging a well – you go on removing layers of earth, stones, rocks and then suddenly there is water. The water that was always there as an undercurrent. When you remove all barriers, the water is available. So with love. Love is the undercurrent of your being. It is flowing, but there are many rocks, much earth to be removed. That’s what I mean when I say: learn the art of love. It is really not learning love but un-learning the ways of un-love.
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Feel the power of love that can discover The Love That Lies within Us All for a wonderful making up relationship with your Ex Love partner
To feel love for someone and their love in return is the most wonderful experience of our lives. When we feel love, we experience joy and fulfilment, but when it is absent we rapidly become unhappy and disillusioned. The search for love defines our lives and plays a critical role in the quality of our wonderful making up relationships. Love really does make our world go round!
Unfortunately we are rarely given any teaching about love, and yet with a little understanding and awareness it can transform our lives. Love can solve problems and heal emotional pain, but only when we allow ourselves to experience its power – we must invite love into our lives.
Consider for a moment the times when you have fallen in love or felt the love of a parent, child or friend. It is almost impossible to describe those comforting feelings of connection and well-being. Notice how anxieties and problems fall away to be replaced by solutions, ease and confidence. There is a timeless quality about love that buoys you up and protects you in even the most despairing of times. You are experiencing the power of love to heal and bring joy and success into your life.
Love is the fundamental truth of life. We are born to love and be loved. It is our natural state. Some people prefer to see this love as a characteristic of our humanity while others prefer to see it as the manifestation of a divine or spiritual source of love. Whatever our personal belief, the power of love is experienced when we connect open-heartedly with others and embrace our natural connections.
Our emotional and relationship problems result from our denial of love – our separation from the love that bonds all people and separation from our higher or spiritual source of love. This denial usually starts when we are very young and has a damaging impact on our lives. Perversely, we invent all manner of negative thoughts, feelings and behaviours to distract us from the love that we already possess. In romantic wonderful making up relationships we then search for love from another person, or try to gain fulfilment from material possessions, to replace the love that we believe is lacking within. This is a terrible mistake because until we have rediscovered self-love, we cannot give or receive love fully from somebody else.
Luckily the best place to work on finding self-love is within a supportive relationship. All wonderful making up relationships have their challenges and it is by working with our partner through the difficult times that a partnership is strengthened. Wonderful making up relationships fail because of our inability to get to the core emotional issues that create the separation. These will be our fears and insecurities and lack of self-belief. In our attempt to hide away any sense of low self-worth we make ourselves unavailable to our partner. It is like building a fortress around ourselves “we think it protects us but in reality it damages or even destroys our wonderful making up relationships.
The way to embrace our loving essence and our natural connections with others is to be willing to feel all our emotions and communicate about them maturely to our partners. We can also ask them about there feelings and commit to working with them to heal any fear… Normally we will find that they have just the same fears and insecurities as us, but may play them out in different styles. Getting to these core issues is the key to healing the pain and fear in a relationship and to becoming more bonded.
As we achieve such healing within our wonderful making up relationships we will automatically discover more success in our lives, we will feel more fulfilled and this will make us happier. We can all do this if we can find the courage to feel our emotions and reveal them within our wonderful making up relationships. As our hearts open we will feel all the love that has been hidden behind our defences and our wonderful making up relationships will go from strength to strength.
Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again.
I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.
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How about slowing down your relationship which you feel it is moving too fast
Peter and his partner have been falling in love since they first meet during the spring of year. They have always constantly wanted to improve themselves for their personal well being, so that they can continue to be motivated and inspiring lovers for any envious friends or peers to overpower jealousy.
Ironically, their relationship has been opinionated by some other parents who think that they cannot let their relationship executed too quickly. The couples have wanted to enter into marriage as soon as possible, but have you wondered this question, if they cannot slow down the relationship, when they invest too much, if the relationship happens to have some pitfalls and hiccups, how are they going to salvage their relationship. That is why some parents actually object them rushing their relationship too fast. If you are reading this piece of article, and feels that you are one of them, not to worry, this piece of article will teach you how you can actually slow down your relationship which you feel that it is moving too fast.
So you’ve been dating for several months and now you are talking about getting married. Your friends and family ask you if you’ve lost your mind and you respond with stars in your eyes, “But we’re in love…” As the word love rolls off of your tongue you wonder for a brief moment if your relationship is moving too fast, and you quickly turn to thoughts of your wedding gown, potential bridesmaids, and wonder what your engagement ring will look like. You may even realize that things are moving quickly, but there is a part of you that doesn’t want to slow down. You love excitement and adventure and since the past few months have been a blast, you are sure the rest of your life will be perfect, right?
Wrong! Too many people have made the mistake of rushing into a relationship and subsequently marriage before giving their relationship chance to truly blossom. If you are planning your bridal shower before you’ve had your first real fight, then you are moving way to fast and it is time to slow down. The trouble with a relationship is that there are two people in it. This means that there are two different time schedules and two lives that are intersecting at the same point in time. Whether or not those two lives will continue travelling down the same road and at the same time is questionable. What is inevitable; however that is at some point, the two of you will head in different directions. It may not be at the same time, but it will occur. Whether it is a difference of opinion, different tastes, or different life choices, moving too fast may mean serious conflict when it is time to make serious decisions as a team.
If you are planning any type of long term relationship or commitment, yet haven’t discovered how to handle your first life crises or difference of opinion, then it is time to slow down. Let your relationship take the time it needs to grow. This is often accomplished inadvertently, when you face life’s many challenges together. Every couple finds that the beginning months of a relationship are full of love and happiness. It’s what happens in the later months, when you aren’t feeling so wonderfully attracted to each other that you can truly begin to gauge where a relationship stands.
If your relationship is built to last you won’t find out until you endure some trials and hardships. Everyone wants to be in a relationship for the long haul. No one intentionally enters into a relationship thinking that it will be over in a few months. However, it is much easier to end a relationship when you have been dating for several months then to file for divorce several years later. Move slowly and let nature take its course. Wait until you have a few real fights (the kind where you think you never want to see each other again) and then see where your relationship stands. Other than that, you are moving too fast.
Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again.
I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.
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Every single have been there sometime. Me too. My “favourite” moment was always Sundays, when all those happy couples with relaxed grins on their faces were cuddling over brekkie and I had to focus on my paper and discuss the topics in it with myself. And I just knew they have had sex all morning. Bo ho. It felt unfair!
But even if my heart breaks when I read an email like this, I say “OK, so be single and miserable for the rest of your life! I don’t really care.”
That might sound harsh, but it is actually YOU who have to care. YOU have to rescue yourself. YOU are the one who is going to live your life – and all I can do as an outsider is ask you questions to raise your awareness of how you behave and motivate you to change your attitude. YOU need to do the work yourself. If you do, you will feel better.
Or do you prefer to stay in the state you are in, feeling like a hopeless case? For how long are you planning to feel like shit? I am provocative now, to wake you up. Nobody will come and save you, but you! If you want to find true love, you have to stop whining.
I know the dating world can be like a mine field. You fall in love and then he suddenly leaves without a trace, or she tell you “oops, I’m married” or they just turn out to be lunatics. Or – jeez – you turn out to be the lunatic, binge texting some poor person who’s not into you. For sure, you can feel worthless, ugly, crazy all at once. I’ve been there. I know. I felt what you are feeling.
But buddy, we are responsible for our own lives and emotions.
Let me tell you about something I call “The emotional smorgasbord rule”. It means that everything that happens to us can be sensed in heaps of different ways. The same winter day can be seen as:
- horribly cold
- crispy and fresh
- the first day of the rest of my life
- just another boring day or
- a “oh no what did I text him last night” day.
How you see things depends on if you are hangover, just have been kissed or have had a phone call from your mum. Different people see the same thing differently.
You can learn to see things in a way that makes you feel good and brings you forward to your fantastic future.
The “always happy people” are not happier because their lives are so much better. They just SEE life in a smarter way. They look at what they got with a positive attitude. They think “OK, I got rejected, but that’s because there is someone else out there that suits me better”. They think “She never called me as she said she would, so I guess she wasn’t ready”. And they compare this attitude with learning by mistakes. Was it something they did that could have been done better? The happy, successful people are sure they will get lucky one day, they keep on trying hard to get it right. How to find true love? Believe that you will…
If you feel that you are a “hopeless case” I ask you “What do you want?” and “How do you want to be?” Stop describing yourself in a negative way, because that will create you. Start instead describing the perfect you, and create the best person you can be.
We all go through rough times, and if you’re seriously depressed you should seek a professional shoulder. But most people just need to look up at the sun instead of down at the ground and get the happiness started! If you let the optimism in, it will come and say hello.
So stop whining my dear, and start singing of joy. That’s more fun, right? La-la-la-la.
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