Jul 27 '10 Rescue Your Relationship With the Relationship Budget

I once heard a great speaker and relationship expert talk about a relationship being much like a bank account. He said that you make deposits and withdrawals in the relationship. Do something good or sweet and you’ve got yourself a bit of extra love and affection. Do something “not so” nice and that’s a withdrawal.

A love letter? Deposit
A romantic evening? Deposit
The interest rate or dividend? Happiness, sex, intimacy…

A grumpy remark? Withdrawal
Forget a birthday or anniversary? Withdrawal

It got me thinking…if you do too much in terms of withdrawals, you might find yourself in OVERDRAFT!

Keep yourself out of relationship overdraft!

Overdraft is dangerous and if you stay in overdraft too long in your relationship, just as in your budget you could become bankrupt.

So, manage your relationship a lot like your budget. Put time and effort into planning the relationship much like a budget and think long and hard before making any big decisions that could impact that relationship.

Much like a bank account that gets regular savings deposits, a relationship that is nurtured will also grow and sustain you. If you’re concerned you haven’t done enough lately, or, want to make sure you’re doing enough: keep reading.

How do you ignite some sparks tonight?

If you want to see some romance sparks tonight, here are a few things you can do to create a great mood and set the stage for some magic!

* Wear a bit of a musky scent. Musk colognes can release endorphins and are kinda like Love Potion No. 9!

* Have something sensual for dinner. Vegetables like carrots, avocado and asparagus can have aphrodisiac properties and foods like chocolate and berries are extremely sensual so don’t hesitate to feed your significant other some chocolate covered strawberries after a great dinner.

* Romantic music and lighting will set the tone

* Minimise potential distractions if possible (get a baby sitter/turn the cell phones off, etc.) but don’t avoid romance just because you can’t get a sitter.

Vital Romance Tips:

Just like you plan for financial expenditures and vacations, relationship rescue might require a bit of planning. This isn’t to say spontaneity is out of the question but here are some guidelines to keep in mind if you’re making a plan to create some excitement:

1. Don’t plan a romantic night on a day when you know your lover has a hobby or sports event on the boob tube or when you know there’s a lot of stress on their plate that could make them less than receptive. It isn’t fair to assume they’re going to be able to drop everything. (This doesn’t mean you should live on the backburner either, but watch for particularly chaotic times, which might not be the best openers for romance)

2. Bad sex radar? If you are putting out all the signals and they don’t pick up on your cues easily, don’t give up before whispering something sexy and an that’s an obvious proposition in their ear. Sometimes subtlety is overrated and if you’re too subtle, you’ll end up disappointed.

A relationship is work an effort but like anything else, if you put effort into it, you’ll get dividends. You reap what you sow in everything, including relationships and having some fun and nurturing your significant other is worth the effort. And, it just might be contagious so don’t be surprised if your effort creates new passion in your relationship from all sides.

Need to rescue your relationship? Visit The Stay Together Forever Relationship Blog for helpful tips about lighting some sparks in your relationship as well as getting through the rough stuff that is inevitable in committed relationships. *Till death do us part* takes HARD WORK but can be so worth the effort!