Aug 08 '10 Relationship Based on Lies

This article will not only discuss how in my years in the professional setting and those I learned while surviving the street environment exposed me to how I observed relationships that were quite honestly based on lies and neither party or parties new it. I mean how could one think that a relationship should even be considered a relationship if it were based on lies? Is a lying relationship a relationship worthy of discussion? Is a relationship based on lies only applicable to a he and she, or a he too he or a she too she?  Or, about relationships that aren’t quite upfront about their vested interest in a relationship but still want a relationship but yet full of lies? How long do you think that relationship will last?  Well, some have lasted for years but lived under a cloud of doubt and apprehension.

Please review this article from a perspective of how you can make it applicable to your particular situation and assess the circumstances and consequences as to whether the relationship is one that you might want to pursue nevertheless; if you have an innuendo that lying might be going on.  As a political scientist I can attest to the fact whereby I have seen numerous parties literally lying to each other to establish a form of a relationship. Particularly, when politicians and their staff go in the back offices or the back room of a local restaurant to cut a deal; believe me on this one, lying is going on! And, that is why so many times we are on a complete stalemate of progress because, interferences of the lies is now playing a role on the negotiations. This political dilemma is extremely prevalent in the international scene of relationships during negotiations. Currently the bombing taking place in the Middle East is a casualty of distrust, and each feeling like lying has taken place and now military action is what needs to transpire. This is unfortunate, as nothing is more utopian than peace!

Now you ask, yes but how do I apply it to me and why would I even want to go there about lying in the first place?  I don’t lie. True and this article is not an advocate for the liars of life. This article is about being prepared to identify when you are in a lying relationship and how you are going to handle it. Ask yourself how far will you take the relationship before you decide you want to bring the whole matter to an end and at what cost. Remember, there have been some lasting relationships that were based on lies; just be prepared to be different amongst a group of liars. And, trust me on this one there are liars out there!