Jun 29 '10 Why There Should be No Substitute to Love

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As you go along through the journeys of life, you will discover that there is no substitute to love. This is a very strong statement which simply means that you should either have love or nothing. Love is depicted as a very strong emotion which is one of the greatest drives that ensures that people are in a position to make their relationships even deeper. There is no substitute to love and, most people who are single will be seeking for real love. They have realized that real or true love is what they need. It is often not very hard to distinguish between real love and general affection. When you truly love someone, you want to spend your time and resources just to be close to the other person. When you just have affection, the feelings are not as deep. There are very many people who enter into life long commitments with the absence of true love. This is not uncommon and, is mainly driven by convenience. This does not necessarily mean that the unions will collapse. Some people who enter into such unions might learn to love their spouses along the way. This sounds rather interesting but, it is very much so.

For example, people who live in societies where marriage is arranged, they do not have a choice of the person to marry. However, as they proceed with the union, they get to like each other and eventually become one in love. Love is very complicated and there is no fully explaining it. It is vital that you reach a point in your life where you say that there is no substitute to love. This will help you know what you want. There are people who are not able to recognize love even when it is in front of them. This is often very sad because opportunities for love are usually very hard to come by. The following are some tips to help your recognize what true love is all about. First, the absence of doubt with a certain person you have in mind to love will indicate love. This is when your gut feeling and your heart are in unison. It is where you feel almost unconditional affection for a person. These are heavy emotions to deal with if you lack direction. True love is possible with anyone from any circle and, often times, we find ourselves in love with people we would even not give a second look. This is what is most interesting about love.

For your happiness, you should acknowledge that there is no substitute to love. If you find yourself thinking too much about a particular person, you might be in love. It is through admiration for the traits of a person that we fall in love. However, you must recognize that there is a thin line between a love and infatuation. To be honest, you have to wait for the end result to tell the difference. Many infatuations have given rise to great love and, no one can claim to totally understand the ways of love. Your heart might do a lot but, it will inform you when you love somebody. It feels great to be in love and for this reason, you should not settle for less; it is not worth substituting love for anything else.

Jun 29 '10 Thyroid Health Problems How, Why, and What to Do Next

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The thyroid gland is a precision instrument that is vital in growth and metabolism. This means that not only is the thyroid gland essential for the function of our bodies, but also that it needs to be working perfectly for optimum health.

One of the most common forms of thyroid problem is hypothyroidism or an under active thyroid gland. The most prevalent form of hypothyroidism is thyroiditis or Hashimoto’s Disease, an auto immune disease affecting the thyroid gland. Hypothyroidism can also be caused by a thyroid gland that is inflamed or sluggish. Thyroid problems can be due to iodine deficiency, an after effect of surgery or medication, or dysfunction of the pituitary gland. First, let’s look at the symptoms and diagnosis of thyroid problems more closely.

What are the symptoms of hypothyroidism?

One of the first signs is usually weight gain, especially if the pounds pile on quickly and are almost impossible to remove. The skin could become dry and rough, the hair dry and coarse, and constant tiredness are also symptoms of this thyroid problem. There could also be memory loss, cramps and constipation. All of these symptoms or just a few can be present, which means diagnosis of a thyroid problem by your physician I recommended.

A blood test for levels of thyroid hormones TSH and T4 is the most precise way to diagnose a health problem. Now, most precise does not necessarily mean very precise, and in fact there is no specific level of thyroid hormones that is “normal” for everyone. Thyroid problems can appear in someone who has the same levels as someone else who seems perfectly fine. The range of thyroid levels considered normal is quite wide. Nevertheless, a blood test remains the best way to diagnose a thyroid health problem, such as hypothyroidism.

Treatment of hypothyroidism

The conventional treatment for thyroid health problems is Levothyroxine, a synthetic thyroid hormone. This treatment can be often very hit-and-miss, with constant monitoring needed as to how levothyroxine levels are affecting the condition. An alternate method of treating thyroid health problems is using a natural thyroid hormone, such as an extract from cows. Here however, there is always the fear of virus contamination. In both cases it is hoped that changing the thyroid hormone levels will treat the causes of the thyroid problem, rather than just temporarily relieve the symptoms.

Natural treatment of hypothyroidism

Vitamins and supplements are also vital when treating thyroid health problems, and for general thyroid support. Vitamins A and C help a lot, as does an increased intake of copper. It’s best to cut out stimulants like alcohol, tea and coffee, as well as smoking. Food with additives and preservatives should be avoided, while fresh vegetables and fruit should be increased to restore balance to your body.

There are also natural remedies being used to treat various thyroid problems. Kelp is said to be very effective and has been used for centuries in Chinese medicine. However, if you are using it to for thyroid support, you must be sure that the kelp comes from a reputed source as it can be contaminated with effluents if it has been harvested too close to the shore. Go-ji or the lyceum berry is also said to be good for thyroid problems, as is avena sativa, a wild oat plant.

The causes of thyroid problems are numerous, so the best way to maintain thyroid health is by taking a holistic approach to health and nutrition. In addition, various herbs and natural remedies are available that are believed to actively treat the problem. Only Mitamins can create a vitamin supplement that combines the essential vitamins and minerals needed for thyroid health with herbs that are known to help in the treatment of thyroid problems.

Jun 29 '10 What is Love?

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Hi

I don’t know if you or anyone knows how to answer this question. But I was wondering how does someone really know if they are in love or deeply attracted to another person?

I’ve read that you would know if you fell in love with someone, and that you would never have to ask yourself if you truly loved someone. Is this the case?

Are the 2 the same or different, and how do you differentiate between the 2?

What about lust? What is your definition to this word?

The reason I’m asking is that I’m feeling all kinds of emotions with a particular guy, (happiness, sadness, frustration, sometimes all at once) and I’m really confused, and frustrated. Our feelings are pretty in sync at times.

I love being around him, even if we don’t have much to say; sometimes just putting my arms around him gives me such happiness. I think about him all the time, yet I’m not sure how I really feel about him. We’re not seriously dating yet.

Do I need to clearly understand my feelings about him first, before committing seriously to him, or does this all evolve over time?

Is this one of life’s mystery which is best left unsolved?

Thanks

Hello!

Poets, authors, song writers and romantics in all of time have been trying to answer this very question. So, in my own arrogance, I’ll give it a shot too.

Part of the problem is that there are so many different types of love, yet only one word to describe it. The Romans had a number of different words for it: “eros” (erotic love”), “pathos” (romantic love) and “philos” (brotherly love) for example. You instantly see that this doesn’t go far enough however. There are still other types of love, like the love of friends, or the love of a mother and child or the love of a man for a fine Cuban cigar, etc.

Here’s my definition of romantic love (the one I think you’re asking me about):

Love is when you find yourself compelled to worry or be concerned over someone else’s happiness and well-being before your own.

That may not seem like much of a definition, but if you’re ever been in love, you’d know that feeling. A person in love dwells on the “love object’s” happiness and well-being far, far before their own.

It’s natural to be concerned with our own well-being, but that turns outward (and to the same degree) when we are in love.

Do you know this when you’re in love? Yes, you do, but no discussion of love would be complete without knowing that this is a two-edged sword. Any person that has ever been in this sort of love and been hurt by it would never wish it to happen again! It’s one of the single most painful experiences anyone can face.

You may have heard the old saying, “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”? Not to anyone that has done it!

I’ll bet you weren’t expecting THAT commentary, were you?

Deep attraction to someone is definitely different than love. Whereas attraction is a selfish pursuit (and I mean “selfish” not in a bad way at all!) whereas love feels like a purely altruistic thing; although it’s not. Among other things, it’s the feelings that are different between them. I personally don’t believe in love at first sight for this reason. I DO believe in the answer to your next question however: LUST at first sight.

Lust is that “eros” I mentioned before. It’s a sexual longing/needing of another person. Sometimes it’s combined with other types of love, and sometimes it exists on it’s own. You can’t wait to get into your lover’s pants and everything they do makes you horny. Interesting, this is a type of experience that permeates the rest of your life! You’ll always remember that person’s perfume or cologne for instance. You’ll always remember certain hair styles or body shapes, etc., and these can cause you to get aroused by people that share the single attribute!

In many ways, lust is more powerful than love. (I can already hear the collective groans of the romantics reading this right now!)

Think about this however: lust is so powerful that governments, parents, churches and many other organizations are all trying to get control over yours! They pass laws, set rules, establish doctrine, etc. all in an attempt to control people’s lust. That should tell you something, because once you get hold of someone else’s sex, you absolutely OWN that other person!

Further, people will risk everything they have, everything they’ve built to satisfy their lust. Consider the cases where teachers are caught having sex with under-aged students. Do you think this is an act of love? Well, perhaps in some cases, but I can say with some confidence that it is always at least permeated with lust.

To get to your last question, no you don’t need to clearly understand your feelings towards him at all. In fact, trying to do so is all but futile! You’re not ever going to understand these feelings. Instead, work to accept them. For many people, that is far more difficult!

Best regards…

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Jun 29 '10 How About Slowing Down Your Relationship Which You Feel it is Moving Too Fast

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How about slowing down your relationship which you feel it is moving too fast

 

 

 

 

Peter and his partner have been falling in love since they first meet during the spring of year. They have always constantly wanted to improve themselves for their personal well being, so that they can continue to be motivated and inspiring lovers for any envious friends or peers to overpower jealousy.

 

Ironically, their relationship has been opinionated by some other parents who think that they cannot let their relationship executed too quickly. The couples have wanted to enter into marriage as soon as possible, but have you wondered this question, if they cannot slow down the relationship, when they invest too much, if the relationship happens to have some pitfalls and hiccups, how are they going to salvage their relationship. That is why some parents actually object them rushing their relationship too fast. If you are reading this piece of article, and feels that you are one of them, not to worry, this piece of article will teach you how you can actually slow down your relationship which you feel that it is moving too fast.

 

So you’ve been dating for several months and now you are talking about getting married. Your friends and family ask you if you’ve lost your mind and you respond with stars in your eyes, “But we’re in love…” As the word love rolls off of your tongue you wonder for a brief moment if your relationship is moving too fast, and you quickly turn to thoughts of your wedding gown, potential bridesmaids, and wonder what your engagement ring will look like. You may even realize that things are moving quickly, but there is a part of you that doesn’t want to slow down. You love excitement and adventure and since the past few months have been a blast, you are sure the rest of your life will be perfect, right?

 

Wrong! Too many people have made the mistake of rushing into a relationship and subsequently marriage before giving their relationship chance to truly blossom. If you are planning your bridal shower before you’ve had your first real fight, then you are moving way to fast and it is time to slow down. The trouble with a relationship is that there are two people in it. This means that there are two different time schedules and two lives that are intersecting at the same point in time. Whether or not those two lives will continue travelling down the same road and at the same time is questionable. What is inevitable; however that is at some point, the two of you will head in different directions. It may not be at the same time, but it will occur. Whether it is a difference of opinion, different tastes, or different life choices, moving too fast may mean serious conflict when it is time to make serious decisions as a team.

 

If you are planning any type of long term relationship or commitment, yet haven’t discovered how to handle your first life crises or difference of opinion, then it is time to slow down. Let your relationship take the time it needs to grow. This is often accomplished inadvertently, when you face life’s many challenges together. Every couple finds that the beginning months of a relationship are full of love and happiness. It’s what happens in the later months, when you aren’t feeling so wonderfully attracted to each other that you can truly begin to gauge where a relationship stands.

 

If your relationship is built to last you won’t find out until you endure some trials and hardships. Everyone wants to be in a relationship for the long haul. No one intentionally enters into a relationship thinking that it will be over in a few months. However, it is much easier to end a relationship when you have been dating for several months then to file for divorce several years later. Move slowly and let nature take its course. Wait until you have a few real fights (the kind where you think you never want to see each other again) and then see where your relationship stands. Other than that, you are moving too fast.

 

 

Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again.

 

 

I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.

 

 

 

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Jun 29 '10 Why Am I Fat? Diet, Exercise, or Thyroid Problem?

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Big bones, genetics, thyroid problems. All three are often given as reasons for unexplained weight gain, or for being overweight. Often these three are cruelly dismissed by others as “excuses” and that the real reason a person is overweight is simply because they are too lazy or too greedy, or both. Of course, big bones do not cause the sort of fat you can grab hold of and wiggle about, and the link between genetics and obesity is not yet proven. However, thyroid problems certainly are real, and one symptom of an under-active thyroid gland is unexplained weight gain. In a country that has 65% of its population overweight or obese, it is time to investigate whether thyroid problems might be a bigger cause than once thought.

The Symptoms of Thyroid Problems

The thyroid gland is located beneath the voice box and produces thyroid hormone, which helps regulate growth and metabolism. An imbalance in thyroid levels in the body leads to thyroid health problems. There can be a number of thyroid problem symptoms, but the most noticeable is reflected in the weight of the patient. An over-active thyroid gland is called hyperthyroidism, and leads to rapid weight loss. An under active thyroid, hypothyroidism, is much more common and leads to sometimes dramatic weight gain.

To properly diagnose an underactive thyroid, or any thyroid problem, a physician is needed. However there are a number of symptoms, besides weight gain, that can indicate a thyroid problem:

Cold hands and feet

Headaches, insomnia

Puffy eyes

Dry skin

Dizziness or a ringing in the ears

The Cause of Weight Gain: Diet, But Not As We Know It.

A publication issued by the American Thyroid Association to educate people about thyroid health problems has proved beneficial to the over seven million women who are afflicted with thyroid health problems. Thyroid problems are sometimes the result of ingesting fluoride in the drinking water which leads to fluoride poisoning.

Iodine is crucially important in correct thyroid support and function. A lack of iodine in the diet causes a number of thyroid problems, including goiter. Goiters are no longer a problem in most developed countries, but other thyroid problems still do and it is thought that it may be due to incorrect levels of iodine. It was once assumed that iodized salt, commonly available, would be the solution to these problems but it that has not been the case. There are a number of foods that block iodine from being absorbed, including peanuts and soybeans. In addition, our diets having changed so much from the time of our ancestors, and these new foods – heavily refined and processed – work our thyroid gland to exhaustion. This can lead to thyroid problems, and of course weight gain.

We hear a lot about how our modern American diet is making the country, and the world, fat. This may be the case, but not simply through eating too many calories and not burning off enough excess. It is possible that your weight gain could be caused through thyroid problems. You can take control of your thyroid gland through supplementation, either using a combination of B vitamins and other natural extracts. Don’t let people tell you that you’re lazy or that you eat too much. Consider the cause of your weight gain could be thyroid related and take positive steps.