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Feel the Power of Love!

August 31st, 2010

If you are capable of loving, you are capable of living. Love is the soul of living, the heartbeat of life. Love is a great meditation. And love does not end in one relationship. Love is an endless phenomenon of relating.

Love appears as relationship but begins in deep solitude. Love expresses as relating but its source is not in relating, its source is in meditating. When you are absolutely happy in your aloneness, when the other is not a need, it is then that you are capable of love. If the other is your need, you can only exploit, manipulate, dominate but cannot love.

Because you depend on the other, possessiveness arises – out of fear. “Who knows? The other is with me today; tomorrow he may not be with me. Who knows about the next moment?” Your woman may have left you, your children may grow up and be gone, your husband might desert you. Who knows what the next moment may bring? Out of that fear of the future, you become very possessive. You create bondage around the person you think you love.

But love cannot create a prison. If love creates a prison, then what is left for hatred to do? Love brings freedom – love gives freedom. It is non-possessiveness. But that is possible only if you have known a totally different quality of love, one not of need but of sharing.

Love is sharing of overflowing joy. You are too full of joy, you cannot contain it, you have to share it. Then there is poetry and then there is something tremendously beautiful which is not of this world, something that comes from the beyond.

Often I say, learn the art of love. What I really mean is: learn the art of removing all that hinders love. It is a negative process. It is like digging a well – you go on removing layers of earth, stones, rocks and then suddenly there is water. The water that was always there as an undercurrent. When you remove all barriers, the water is available. So with love. Love is the undercurrent of your being. It is flowing, but there are many rocks, much earth to be removed. That’s what I mean when I say: learn the art of love. It is really not learning love but un-learning the ways of un-love.

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Is it Love or Lust?

August 31st, 2010

There are zillions of lovers who swear that they had fallen for each other at the first sight. Whereas there are others who are not as lucky and so have dismissed love-at-first-sight as an unrealistic proposition. They contend it is a concept cooked up by romantics who need a plausible theory to air-brush that deadly sin stirring inside them. They insist that the tingle, that spark, that connection that you feel with a person upon seeing him or her the first time is most probably LUST. It is not, nor can it be, love. Love is built on compatibility, understanding, trust, security, respect… None of these aspects can be gauged at the first meeting, and therefore, by logical reasoning, your feelings, however powerful, can not be love at all.

Infatuation is the name

In the same vein, love at first sight is an excuse often trotted by people who either don’t know, or don’t want to admit that the pull of a sexual attraction can be that intense. This may well sum up the beliefs of most modern lovers. “I used to believe that love at first sight isn’t such a sham as it is made out to be. His name was Jack and the first time I saw him, I was completely charmed. His good looks had an almost instantaneous magical effect on me. He was my neighbour’s cousin and I used to eagerly await birthdays and anniversary functions in the neighbourhood in the hope of seeing him. In fact, on such occasions, I made sure I wore a short skirt or something sexy. I would make special efforts to speak in my accented english in front of him until one day I met another guy whom I knew for six months and got involved with him. Jack was out of my mind and my life. It’s then I realised that love had a lot more to it than just physical attraction.

For many, love at first sight is just another way of saying infatuation. “I don’t think there is any such thing as love at first sight. It’s infatuation colour-coated as love. It’s purely physical in nature. Love should not be dishonoured by comparing it with something as amorous desire,” adds MNC executive Jess Jones.

There are others who also believe that it’s an immature emotion felt by young teenagers. A guy may have the best looks in the world but may turn out to be the biggest cheater too. Eventually one realises the value of compatibility, steadiness, understanding and commitment in sustaining a relationship. You can’t predict that a guy will share these with you at the first sight.

’tis true love

For every person who doesn’t believe in this, there are others who will defend love at first sight with a dogged determination. They argue that physical attraction is the first step to any relationship. It could be the person’s face, gait, hair or even butt that first attracts you to him/her. This is something called intution. “When I saw my girlfriend for the first time in school, I became completely lost in her eyes. She was new in the school and had an innocent look about her. I could feel my heart flutter with joy every time I saw her. There was an instant emotional connection. Although I couln’t gather the strength to confess my feelings to her till much later, my love withstood the vagaries of time. As a friend and a classmate, I was well aware of her ongoing affairs but somewhere I still had the embers of hope burning bright. It was three years of passing out school, that I confessed my feelings to her, that too with the help of her best friend. She was hesitant initially but today we are a happy couple. It was truly love at first sight for me”, says graphic designer Arun Vohra.

There can be love at first sight but the chances of success are as high or poor as the people involved in it. My brother met my sister-in-law and within three months they were married. I too married my husband in a similar fashion,” adds model Jessica Simons.

You may call it the stroke of luck or destiny, the truth is there are many relationships that grew out of the so-called Cupid that struck at first sight as many as there are others that haven’t worked out.

What’s the difference between lust and true love?

- Lust actually occurs when you first meet someone and feel a special connection. It is based on sexual chemistry and is accompanied by a rapid heartbeat, sweaty palms and, for an unfortunate few drooling. It is more like an infatuation than enduring love. It could stem from both physical and a mental attraction.

- The main difference between lust and love is that lust often happens when there is little chance of forming a relationship. Lust is safe way to explore your feelings for someone who you may think is unattainable. This can closely resemble love, and if your feelings don’t fizzle after you’ve snagged the object of them, then they can lead to love.

Michael Douglas is a dating and relationship expert who currently writes for Love-Lectures.com where you can find love tips for romancing your love mate and dating tips for yet another successful date. Also, he offers love relationship tips to strengthen your love life and helps you in building healthy and successful relationships.

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What is Unconditional Love?

August 30th, 2010

Why people kiss or want to be kissed by their partners???

It is an expression of affection in romantic relationships that come from within the two conjugal lovers. Love can be expressed in thousands of ways but nobody can say which one is the most satisfactory for them.

You must have seen pairs of lovers sitting in a cozy pasture at your nearby park and making love for hours together leaving all the prosaic things behind. Sometimes, they are seen to play with each other’s private parts or are seen in a kissing posture. This is nothing new to this world of romantic love; the tradition has been going on since the origin of human race. But, can any couple truly claim that they are fully satisfied with their activities in parks under the greenwood tree? No!! They would prefer to have more sexual play to meet their desire. This urge for making love cannot be satisfied if it is not free from condition.

Even after a passionate intercourse, a couple may not be satisfied fully to open their heart for love; on the other hand, a single kiss can bring saturated love in your life. It is the psychology of lovers that determine the state of satisfaction…true love is boundless, free from all ethics of life; it can neither be restricted through any chain of conditions nor can be replaced by any earthly substance.

A married life is intended to bring happiness through love, emotions and feelings for each other. If there lays no emotion, sense of satisfaction and earnest eagerness to make love – nothing can bring peace, harmony and certainty in married life. It is quite obvious that after getting married, every couple would like to explore more fun through sex; but the common experience is altogether different. It is often found that instead of enjoyment, they are leading a hectic life full of conditions that revolves around ‘give and take policy’. Love is not love when conditions restrict normalcy of life. Take the incident for granted – a young boy to satisfy his urge for making love goes to a prostitute and does what is expected… keeping aside true love from her and as soon as the game is over he would have to stretch his hand for paying a lump some amount.

Relationship between the boy and the prostitute is too fragile to stay more than one or two hours. In this case, sex can be bought in exchange of money but cannot love. Marriage, though an institution, seems like a relationship between a truant boy and a prostitute, if it is not bounded by unconditional love. Faith, complacency and satisfaction are key words that can bring peace and harmony in any married couple, not mere sex. On the other hand sex is as important as the heart beats of life. Without sex life seems to be barren tract of land. This is why unconditional love is the primal force behind any strong relationships, especially for marriage.

The society is getting complicated every day and the relationships between human beings are no exception. Extra-marital affair is very common nowadays; but that relationship should also be cemented with unconditional love, otherwise the fun that you are looking for would not come to you. There is always a set of theory that rover around human mind in order to crave for any object that is beyond their reach. Extra marital affair is increasing like anything else. Unlike any other person, you would probably think of enjoying the body of other’s wife without letting know her husband.

This relationship would stay as long you crave and it stands on a definite cause. Suppose, both of you want to keep this relationship only because of having sex or to play with the private organs of each other; in such cases, the love that you possess for that lady or vice versa is controlled by conditions i.e. sex and nothing else. If there were true love in between two souls of you, both of you would feel for each other. Otherwise, it would again become just like the relationship of a young boy and prostitute. ‘Give and take policy’ can be applicable to deal with customers, but would never fruitful for a matured love affair. Love is devoid of any expectation; it does not demand anything from life. Only proper mentality and mindset is required.

The term ‘unconditional love’ should also be there in between two gays or lesbians. Preferences may alter depending on people; but unconditional love is static in every true relationship. It is the basis of any true association; it asks for trust, faith and friendship of two different souls. Unconditional love is ideal love, which brings peace, harmony, satisfaction and all the positive emotional feelings in life. It is difficult to follow the true paths of unconditional love in the mire of mundane life, but the fruits of unconditional love bring forth true sense to live on the breast of this mother earth.

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